I think it’s true indeed.

You go to our front page that you see when you bring up our site, scroll down to the great opportunities we offer in services, choose one and follow the prompts. There is a fee but if you cannot afford it, go to cptsdfoundation.org/scholarship and apply.

Yes, I am a CPTSD survivor who is moving on to become a thriver. Thank you for asking. Shirley

I just found this site about 2 hours ago. I am excited about finding it. Right off the bat, I have two questions:

1. Where do I join for membership? Is there a fee?

2. Shirley, are you yourself a cPTSD survivor?

You have come to the right place. All the writers and staff of CPTSD Foundation are healing from complex trauma, so we understand you. Please, feel free to take advantage of our resources and programs. You are certainly not alone in this. Shirley

I was referred to your website today. Have experienced a 25 year aftermath of a high profile domestic violence case. Am in a somewhat safe place. Was told I could not heal until I felt safe. A lot is bubbling up to the surface I have tried to suppress previously. COVID has forced me to slow down and feel the horror of my past life. I need help.

Many thanks for your message! I would have guessed that you experienced that nightmare too, I would say one can “feel it” in the way you write, it’s great that you manage to maybe use all that bad energy to help others. I will keep looking at your programs/articles, as I actually only started going through this website. I don’t know whether it is recent, but I discovered C-PTSD at the start of the year and I don’t remember having seen this site on the search results back then. Which in a way shows how overlooked that trouble is. Therapists often only dig the first few inches, they tell you you have some “chemical imbalance problems” or that you’re “just” depressed, or anxious…

It’s also relieving to “hear” (well, to read haha) that society has a problem with men from a female. Antagonising men and women is maybe the worst thing that was ever done recently. I feel like some of the ideologies we nowadays have in “Western” societies, like what feminism have been turned into, consist in basically dehumanising men. And funny enough, it’s precisely exactly what “the demons in my head” do, dehumanising me, telling me I’m not worth anything, telling me I’m bad and I shouldn’t exist. Having that in the head, and sometimes fearing that even the society relays such thoughts, makes it indeed even harder to seek help and find Hope. Because Morale is key, even with the best people ever around, someone who has lost faith in life can’t be helped.

So, I’m looking forward for that article you talked about, and thanks again for caring about what I had to say.

I’m so sorry you went through so much sir. I have been there too, although I am female. I’m glad you felt you could vent some pain here, that’s what we are all about. I urge you to take advantage of some of the programs offered here on this blog. Athena, the owner and the person who runs the programs, is a wonderful woman who understands like no one else does as she has been there too. Men have a horrendous time in our society and get a bad rap when it comes to finding help. I’m glad we can ease your discomfort even if it is only a little bit. Please, keep reading. I’m writing a series right now about men and CPTSD that will get published soon. Hang in there sir, we care very much about what happens to you. Shirley

Though, I still minimize a lot, I often think that I don’t really exist, that I’m a ghost noone sees nor cares about, eventhough this can’t be true. Mainly because I can’t recall what “normal people” would consider traumatic events. I didn’t suffer from my life experiences. I suffered from not experiencing anything in life (it is an exageration but this is how it felt). I spent most of my teenage years (from 12 to 17) with no real friend, distrust from my teachers who didn’t get why I was always quiet, bad relations with parents (who told me I was making them feel ashamed of me numerous times), and close to no physical contact with anyone with some bullying on top of this. Now I have started to grow (finally), I have good friends, studies I like, some independance (my car changed my life almost as much as my friends) but I still struggle a lot with romantic relationships and can’t get rid of bad thoughts all the day long…

All this to ventilate a bit some pain (which makes me inevitably feel like I’m a narcissist) and to say that I’m very glad people like you are providing such a needed resource. Things linked to personal trauma (apart from war, catastrophies or sexual abuse which fortunately are getting more attention) or emotional abandonment are often not talked nor cared about, especially when you are a man. Basically the mere fact of having a problem makes me feel ashamed and guilty, and so thanks for providing help through these articles.

I’m so glad you are getting so much out of this site, however, I do not own it but only write for it. Athena Moberg is the owner/operator of the CPTSD Foundation’s website. She is a wonderful person who you can check out on YouTube as she speaks interactively there every week.

Athena Moberg

I appreciate you reading my writing very much, thank you for your kind comment! Shirley J. Davis