You can’t accept men are sexually abused because of your insecurity. You had to reference “dicks” in your comment because you feel emasculated by the very concept of sexual abuse of men. Go to therapy. Stay away from SA survivors and work on yourself.

Officer: “You misunderstood what happened.”

Mom: “I never did that!”

I’m not an expert on how men feel and that was not the purpose of the piece. The purpose was to try and raise awareness that men can be victims of domestic abuse just as well as men and how badly society treats men. Thank you for your comment. It was much appreciated. Shirley

RT my book is specifically designed to educate psychologists and support male survivors. Men Too: Unspoken Truths About Male Sexual Abuse…available on Amazon or anywhere else books are sold!

Thanks Kelli
I have marked his name down and will look for the book.

In fact, I will request it for my staff library in the hopes that the female counselors that I work with read it.

Sorry Shirley I just saw this…yes lets connect kellipalfypsychology@gmail.com is my email address….I’d love to hear from you…

I have a brother who has faced many of the things you mentioned in your comment. That’s why I know about the suffering so many men go through but are not heard. It is a shame on our society that we ignore or demonize men expressing themselves and getting help. I hope your life is good in the future. Caring. Shirley

I went through my childhood and youth seeing my sister, also a victim, listened to, getting support, recieving therapy while I recieved none of those. I had no voice, no worth. I attempted suicide a number of times. I struggled with substance abuse. I can not trust anyone.

The few times that I brought up (generaly, not my own) male victimhood, I was attacked by angry women. Told that all violence is perpetrated by men. I had statistics thrown at me, told that all male victims become perpetrators, shamed for trying to say that men and boys can be vulnerable to abuse, etc etc.

Even women in a peace-based martial arts club pushed me out for commenting on a billboard that said “stop all male violence toward women” because noon wanted to hear that abuse can be perpetrated by anyone of any gender or orientation, and that violence takes many forms. I just don’t try anymore, to prevent further victimization.

Even while working in social services (a female dominated industry) I heard these ideas spoken by female colleagues.
Time and time again convicted male offenders were put on my caseload, simply because I am a man. I was Triggered over and over, unable to speak of it. Still don’t have a voice because if I disclose, I will be marked as a predator.

Many times as an adult I tried to get support. For a long time there was just one male survivors group, with a waiting list so long that there was no point. And expensive. And because it was geared to offenders I did not feel safe.

Despite longtime treatment with a stack of 3 antidepressants my anxiety and depression got to the point that I could not work and I needed a psychiatric referral from my doctor. (I needed it 50+ years ago!)

So I am glad that you, a woman, has written this article. I hope that more women are awakened to the actual reality. I am an egalitarian by nature, but despite the struggle for equality, I still see double standards and myths carried forward by well meaning feminists. Pointing these out is very dangerous.

So it must be a woman reporting this to women, as no male will be heard. Thank you for your work