Hell yes! I don’t know why these sites recommend therapy… my God, that’s like saying “Go find another person to abuse you”. Most therapists are simply grifters.. there to profit from your vulnerability. And a LOT of them are narcissists. Really, what better role for a narcissist? I’ve been no contact for ten years and I do my own self-reflection, education and healing. You DO NOT need to pay some grifter for “help”. There’s no such thing! If you “need help” the assumption is that you’re broken. You are NOT broken. The narcissist is. Just leave and go find yourself. And don’t put your faith in grifters. Don’t spend your money.. Heal yourself. You have that power and God WILL show you the way. Never walk a path that is someone else’s. They don’t know your story.. only you do. Forget therapy. Heal yourself. Whatever it takes.

Kim, just reading your email now. Sounds like you are dealing with narcissism, a personality disorder for which there is no cure.
These people have no heart, no soul. Medical imaging shows the love part of the brain of these people did not develop in childhood due to an abusive parent, usually mother.
They cannot not feel love, never.
I feel they pay everyone back for the lack of love they didn’t receive in childhood.
Their goal is to destroy you. They are fake, never loved anyone, not even themselves.
You need to educate yourself on narcissism, get a good therapist. I also do homeopathy which helps with the emotional trauma.

I, too, understand what you are feeling, Lu. It scared me to even consider that God seemed to be leading me out of my 40 marriage vs. having me stay. I did not want to leave and thought I would die if I did!! I even thought I had to not be hearing God correctly.
I am now 4 months officially divorced, looking back with magnified amazement God gave me the strength and courage to let my husband go. I actively let my husband go, telling him, “I have to let you go. If you do not initiate the dissolution, I will.” And I did on Nov. 4, 2022. I was a scared little girl, on a ledge and peeking over, my flashlight not working as my terror, outright terror, was overwhelming me.
God brought me through these past 14 months, one baby step at a time. One terrifying night at a time. I sooo longed for contact, hopping he would reach out. I was an addict, needing a fix, even a destroying fix.
God will do the same for you, Lu. That is His promise. And, He does not lie. Even if you do not know or believe in God, He knows you.

I appreciate the emphasis you place on self-education and seeking therapy, as well as the importance of establishing healthy connections and engaging in new experiences. Your suggestions offer a comprehensive approach to healing and breaking the cycle of trauma bonds.

Thank you once again for shedding light on this important topic and providing valuable resources for those in need. Your article serves as a valuable tool for understanding and overcoming trauma bonds, ultimately empowering individuals to prioritize their well-being and prevent future abusive relationships.

Warm regards,
Kaushik M. [Founder, LiveWellTalk]

I don’t know how to break free of my trauma bond. I always end up back in the arms of my abuser. At first I feel such a weight has been lifted, I feel safe even, happy, like I dont ever want it to end until it does and we won’t see each other or talk for a few days then I get to missing him and try to contact him and I’m right back to the beginning.

My man. That’s rough. You are not alone and neither am I and we have to remember that. I’ve been trying to learn what acting in truth means. It’s hard. I share your pain. Reading your story gives me hope. It truly does. Sorrow is better than laughter, for by sadness of face the heart is made glad.