Comments on: The Important Awareness of the “A” Word.

By: Randi

Randi — Tue, 25 Aug 2020 02:42:56 +0000

In reply to Ashleigh.

I’m glad my words and blog have helped you. I’m so sorry for what you went through as a child. Abuse is abuse, and you are right; you do have someone who understands 🙂

I’m happy that you found the homeschool schedule useful. Best of luck with your homeschooling this year.

That’s wonderful that you are starting to heal and process your trauma. Sending strength and hugs!

By: Ashleigh

Ashleigh — Fri, 14 Aug 2020 05:06:48 +0000

Randi, thank you for sharing your story. Abuse is abuse even if it is not physical. I have just started my healing journey from the trauma I had as a child and reading this article and then going to your blog and reading your blog made me feel as if I have someone with me on this journey that understands thank you. I love the homeschool schedule. I have printed it and I will be using it when we start school in September thank you for sharing your story!

By: Randi

Randi — Thu, 06 Aug 2020 20:33:42 +0000

In reply to Micah Lyn.

Micah Lyn,
Thank you so much for your support. I’m awaiting approval on my response to you because I attached a post from my blog.
In the meantime, I wanted to let you know how much I appreciated your feedback, and how strong you are to openly share your story with anyone who you consider a friend.

By: Randi

Randi — Thu, 06 Aug 2020 20:23:04 +0000

In reply to Katherine. Katherine, I am so sorry for what you have had to endure. It breaks my heart to read about your suffering and the suffering of your children. Thank you for sharing your story with me. I am in awe of your strength, courage, and determination to use your platform to shed more light on the many forms of abuse. I am trying to use my blog to bring awareness as well. Thank you for your support. Sending hugs!

By: Randi

Randi — Thu, 06 Aug 2020 20:07:57 +0000

In reply to Micah Lyn.

Hi, Micah! Thank you so much for your support. You are incredibly brave and strong to be able to share your story openly with anyone you consider a friend. You know the horrors of what you’ve experienced, and don’t let anyone ever tell you otherwise! I wrote a post on my blog about the importance of acknowledging trauma if someone shares their story with you.

https://www.survivingmomblog.com/post/addressing-the-elephant-in-the-room-why-silence-is-not-always-golden

By: Katherine

Katherine — Thu, 06 Aug 2020 15:14:52 +0000

Randi,
I’m very sorry to hear your story and know that no one intervened. I am 52 years old, so when I was young, and being bullied for an entire school year, no one stepped in for me, either. I believe the ignorance over how deeply traumatic such events can be, was a sign of those times. Mental illness, verbal/emotional abuse, etc., were taboo, or not understood. Now, my 19 and 18 year old children are likely on the CPTSD spectrum, from psychological abuse over their lifetime by the man I chose to marry. He is likely suffering from NPD. He, however, is not the type that needs to be regarded as the best. Instead, he sucks the life and money out of women. Because I work as a TV News Anchor, and do the evening newscasts, the judge in our divorce granted joint custody, but allowed my ex to be the residential parent, since, according to the judge “You work at night.” As the financial and insurance provider, I eventually had to move five hours away from my children. My ex husband is “allergic” to work, so without my income, and that of his now third wife, the kids would not have remained in their school, with their friends, and so on. My point is, my children grew up terrified of their father’s subtle criticism and judgement. He was verbally abusive, but so clever that the kids blamed themselves for disappointing him. With my presence removed, they have become allied with his way of thinking, and have told me not to contact them again. It is like Stockholm Syndrome. My ex truly hates me, for I am the one person who knows what and who he really is. So, to love or defend me to their father, was dangerous to the kids. They learned that in order to have their basic needs met, they must adopt the opinions and perspectives of their father, and therefore reject me, at the cost of becoming independent individuals, and successful adults.
Did not intend to ramble out my story; but, for you, for me, and for everyone one else out there who has survived the abuse by a sick person in their immediate circle, I will find a way to use my platform as an anchor/reporter to shed more light on this issue, which is far more pervasive and insidious than we know.

By: Micah Lyn

Micah Lyn — Thu, 06 Aug 2020 11:22:53 +0000

Randi, thank you so much for sharing your story. You are so damn right, abuse is abuse is abuse.

As another survivor of CPTSD, abused both physically and emotionally, I get that people don’t want to hear about it. It makes them uncomfortable. Some tell me to just get over it, to not “wallow” in it. They think positive thinking will conquer all. My negative attitude is the problem.

Too bad, they are just plain wrong. What we have is real, you and I know and feel and live the reality of it every second of every day. I share my story with everyone I consider a friend. If they don’t want to hear it they aren’t a true friend. A true friend listens to what is in your heart.

Thank you for your story, Micah Lyn.