Hi, Holly!

The fact that you ask yourself if you are doing enough proves that you are breaking the cycle! Any good mom worries and prays that they do right by their children. Your three beautiful girls are very lucky to have you. I’m glad my post resonated with you!

Thank you for such an honest and real writing Randi! As a Mom of three beautiful daughters I struggle to wonder if I’m breaking the cycle. Am I doing enough, do my girls know that I love them…

Thank you for your response. Your words brought me to tears. I’m so sorry for what you had to endure. There are certain wounds in which time will never fully heal. All we can do is play to the best of our ability the cards we were dealt. I’m so appreciative of your kind words, and I’m so glad my article resonated with you. Sending hugs to you and all your inner children!

Di, your words and story made me cry. I am so sorry for all your hurt and pain. You ARE breaking the cycle with your awareness and choices. It takes enormous strength and courage to do both. You are enough. I am sending love and care to you and that little boy.

Randi, I cry. You broke the inter generational chain of abuse. My own did not, their stories of incest, WWII veterans, complex grief & health anxiety remain unresolved. Just replicated & re-iterated again. My story is horrid & the “how come’s remain a torrent.”
Sadly, I knew – I was never going to be good enough to raise a child. The never good enough continues. A loss forever, however my mind has somehow rescued a young boy – perhaps I will find him, & provide the love & care you so exemplify.

Thank you so much for your kind words! I’m so glad my article resonated with you. ♥️

Hi, Abigail!

I couldn’t agree more with your sentiments. Too many horrors have been ignored for too long. Awareness is crucial to stop the cycle of abuse.

I started my blog to bring awareness to others in the hopes of bringing change. It is not an easy task to open up about my abuse, but if it can bring support to others and bring awareness to even one person, then something good can come from such a monstrosity.

Thank you for your response.
-Randi

You have highlighted one of the shadier section of day to day abuse which never get highlighted and is always covered up in the name of parenting. This cycle of abuse has been ignored for decades and in the name of discipline , this practice has been unchallenged in most of the section of the society.

Just quoting your point #2.

“It is crucial that we learn new and healthy ways of parenting. Don’t be afraid to get help! Read those parenting books (and roll your eyes at the things you know wouldn’t work for your child), phone a friend (or two, or three) when you are having a bad day or you need some advice on how to proceed. Read that self-help book (or two, or three) that you’ve read so many times that it is hard to make out the words. Reach out to your spouse and your therapist. It is okay to ask for help. It is not okay to continue the cycle of abuse”.

Each growing individual who is already a parent or would be aspiring to be a parent in near future needs to sync in this awareness in order to change the process of silent abuse.

And yes what happens to us is a reflection of our abuser, its not us.