@Micah A Strava I think you are correct, most people just don’t want to hear about our pain, because it makes them uncomfortable. This can be for a variety of reasons, but the most common is that our pain reminds them of their own pain and sadness, and they are trying hard to push that awareness down! Another reason is that there are unfortunately many people in the world who are self-centered and don’t really care about other people’s feelings. Happiness and positivity can be dealt with easily with a smile and a laugh, but sadness and pain require effort to be present to hold loving space for the person suffering. If someone doesn’t care, they certainly can’t be bothered with making that effort!
I have learned to keep my pain to myself, if and until I find someone who is empathetic enough to care, and who doesn’t have their defenses up to protect themselves from having to look at their own pain.

So they offer what they see as solutions, and the conversation is over. And they will walk away satisfied about the help they’ve given.