Yes, Denise, hope is possible and you can turn trauma on its head by healing. Never give up. Let us as survivors have the last word, not the trauma. Thank you for your comment.

I am taking in general here and not about your mother. I am referring to someone who is dying and unable to speak.

It is unlikely they have ever been able to receive compassion or see it as anything other than a manipulative technique.. It is more likely that when someone has gone no contact they think back with happiness about the times they have caused the most grief.

Ii have never heard of aging or even the beginning stages of death bring about remorse and communicating that remorse to the victim.

For a person who has gloried in their ability to hurt, to bring the victim down when they are calm and happy, their realisation that they can no longer hurt their victim and the victim is no longer tense and on eggshells when the victim is sitting next to them is the most gut wrenching experience for them.

So, and I’m speaking in general here, being calmly and comfortingly with a narcissist who is dying may have a paradoxical effect.

Thank you so much for your comments. Have a great day…indeed! Ha! I would not have believed the lack of compassion if I had not experienced it. I appreciate your words and the suffering they express. Thank you for taking the time to comment.

Thank you 🙂