Comments on: What I Needed to Hear to Begin Healing My Inner Critic https://cptsdfoundation.org/2022/10/05/what-i-needed-to-hear-to-begin-healing-my-inner-critic/ The Foundation for Post-Traumatic Healing and Complex Trauma Research Fri, 22 May 2026 07:39:40 +0000 hourly 1 https://wordpress.org/?v=7.0 By: Lakie https://cptsdfoundation.org/2022/10/05/what-i-needed-to-hear-to-begin-healing-my-inner-critic/#comment-54991 Fri, 22 May 2026 07:39:40 +0000 https://cptsdfoundation.org/?p=243934#comment-54991 I’ve had only scan through the above very quickly. I was on a high dose of Venlafaxine (an antidepressant) for just over five years, which by my own admission due my striving to do the best, not just for me personally, for the community, and even for the world! (sounds rather unfetched, but as far is my feelings, my dreams and my :altruism” it was real). I was born just before the end of The World War II in a third World, and my first years of life spent in poverty through the continuing fighting with the occupying force. I managed to win a scholarship in a developed country but had to quietly battled against the “White Supremacists”, which were quite acceptable in those days. I learned not to get angry. I learned not get revengeful and I learned to be compassionate. However now I have to battle the inner critic which constantly reminding me that I haven’t done enough, I could have done more and better and I should have done so.
However, lately I’m beginning to think that whilst I’m not angry, obviously I haven’t been happy with the hurts that have been caused to me in the past. In fact I have been feeling disappointed with, dislike and even resented the attitude, the behaviour and the actions that I feel now have caused a lot of unconscious, subconscious or repressed griefs. I’m beginning to entertain the idea that the afore mentioned feelings are pointing towards Complex PTSD.
I’ve decided therefore to read the above article and to digest it slowly, and I promise myself to continue watching your post.
Thanking you in appreciation,

Lakie (untung “Lakie” Laksito)

]]> By: M Doughty https://cptsdfoundation.org/2022/10/05/what-i-needed-to-hear-to-begin-healing-my-inner-critic/#comment-48252 Sun, 25 Jan 2026 08:11:49 +0000 https://cptsdfoundation.org/?p=243934#comment-48252 I know this is an old post but I have to comment as it has been very helpful, I’ve been trying to figure out where this inner critic came from and was thinking along the same lines as you and then reading this has started me on what I believe is the right path, going through childhood and a good amount of adulthood undiagnosed with a few things I can now start to see there is a little boy who is thinking ahead to try and spot all the problems that could come up and preparing me for them, basically autism and missing the queues that are the start of bullying ect, now I’m so good at it I very quickly get the most extreme voice that is then also images that are so vivid, nothing factual but so clear, an accident I’m going to cause has movie style slow motion of the injury’s with sound and pain, it’s fully immersive and it’s got more extreme as I’ve tried all the ways to stop it, he has a name now and it’s little boy and he try’s so very hard and I’m so proud of him he just needs this adult me to gently take his hand and show him he can let me take over now and I thank him for all the hard work he really did his best to keep me safe

]]> By: Heidi Fischer https://cptsdfoundation.org/2022/10/05/what-i-needed-to-hear-to-begin-healing-my-inner-critic/#comment-18166 Sat, 04 Mar 2023 02:47:46 +0000 https://cptsdfoundation.org/?p=243934#comment-18166 In reply to Natalie.

Thank you for your comment and for sharing this was helpful, that’s always what I like to hear! I hope it will be helpful to you on your journey and I wish you all the best.

]]> By: Natalie https://cptsdfoundation.org/2022/10/05/what-i-needed-to-hear-to-begin-healing-my-inner-critic/#comment-18135 Tue, 28 Feb 2023 04:10:50 +0000 https://cptsdfoundation.org/?p=243934#comment-18135 This was so helpful! I had felt like my shame voice (the inner critic) was trying to keep me safe, but I didn’t know the next steps towards healing. Your explanation made so much sense! Having compassion for the critic and having a mental dialogue where I tell her how adult-me will keep her safe feels right.

]]> By: Heidi Fischer https://cptsdfoundation.org/2022/10/05/what-i-needed-to-hear-to-begin-healing-my-inner-critic/#comment-17138 Fri, 14 Oct 2022 01:25:14 +0000 https://cptsdfoundation.org/?p=243934#comment-17138 In reply to Kayla.

Yep that’s exactly how I feel, so happy to read this is helpful to you. 💕

]]> By: Heidi Fischer https://cptsdfoundation.org/2022/10/05/what-i-needed-to-hear-to-begin-healing-my-inner-critic/#comment-17137 Fri, 14 Oct 2022 01:24:16 +0000 https://cptsdfoundation.org/?p=243934#comment-17137 In reply to Rachel K..

I love how well this works for myself and now hearing that it does die others gives me a good smile. Congrats on the car wash too! Woo hoo! 💜

]]> By: Heidi Fischer https://cptsdfoundation.org/2022/10/05/what-i-needed-to-hear-to-begin-healing-my-inner-critic/#comment-17136 Fri, 14 Oct 2022 01:22:48 +0000 https://cptsdfoundation.org/?p=243934#comment-17136 In reply to Noemi.

I love that description and way you talk with your critic, thanks for taking the time to comment!! 💙

]]> By: Heidi Fischer https://cptsdfoundation.org/2022/10/05/what-i-needed-to-hear-to-begin-healing-my-inner-critic/#comment-17135 Fri, 14 Oct 2022 01:21:41 +0000 https://cptsdfoundation.org/?p=243934#comment-17135 In reply to mas.

Thanks for sharing your experience. ❤️

]]> By: Kayla https://cptsdfoundation.org/2022/10/05/what-i-needed-to-hear-to-begin-healing-my-inner-critic/#comment-17119 Tue, 11 Oct 2022 13:18:19 +0000 https://cptsdfoundation.org/?p=243934#comment-17119 In reply to Kayla.

what is* Geez… Typos. Lol

]]> By: Kayla https://cptsdfoundation.org/2022/10/05/what-i-needed-to-hear-to-begin-healing-my-inner-critic/#comment-17118 Tue, 11 Oct 2022 13:17:20 +0000 https://cptsdfoundation.org/?p=243934#comment-17118 Omg… So many problems have stemmed from fighting against my inner critic. Berating was is essentially a child part of me that is scared, hurting, and trying to protect me from more damage/trauma will just further traumatize that part of me and cause them to lash out more, like little kids do when they’re hurt/angry/upset/overwhelmed.

I find that being kind and gentle, while not being patronizing or dismissive of the inner critic’s concerns, genuinely produces SO much more and rapid healing than does berating and shaming the critic for doing its job to protect.

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