Comments on: Why Are Dysfunctional Families So Oppressive?

By: Mitchell

Mitchell — Tue, 30 Dec 2025 19:19:28 +0000

I’m 68 , striving to understand the oppressive nature of my upbringing, with the aim of
compartmentalising my past,
placing corrections and barriers and moving on to enjoy what’s left of my life. From my first memory at about 3 – 4 I had been abused and groomed by my father to be oppressed. I’ve come to believe that other people , including family members, have sensed that weakness which was bred into me and taken their own advantage as well. I feel as though I’ve been treated like a whore.

By: Ron Larson

Ron Larson — Wed, 23 Oct 2024 15:17:05 +0000

You are like of breath of fresh air and a green lovely meadow.

By: Kristine Kozar

Kristine Kozar — Tue, 15 Oct 2024 12:45:48 +0000

“As long as my father could lecture about all the mistakes I was making, or veer off into some topic in which he felt himself an expert, he would continue to listen to himself talk and leave me alone.”

Clear-cut case of ASD or Asperger’s

By: Kristine Kozar

Kristine Kozar — Tue, 15 Oct 2024 12:40:07 +0000

As I read this article I would like to know what your father did for a living? If he was not happy with his own career choice and or was treated like an idiot throughout his life when he was actually smarter than everyone else, also can contribute to a profound immense anger later in life when you finally realize you are different than everyone else than most everyone else and wish you had done things differently or had known that years ago cuz you might have done things differently.

By: Kristine Kozar

Kristine Kozar — Tue, 15 Oct 2024 12:36:54 +0000

Was your father/mother ever diagnosed with ASD and or Asperger’s? After only reading half the article I would say I could definitely relate to your father and I believe he probably has Asperger’s which would explain exactly why he is the way he is. Probably undiagnosed is why he is so angry.

By: Rhonda

Rhonda — Sat, 20 Jul 2024 01:24:28 +0000

In reply to Lea. I understand what you mean. I have a severely dysfunctional family. I imagine the author probably has darker moments she is just trying to make the story more relatable. Kind of like how the Christian movie channel waters down various themes as to not offend God or something.

By: Elizabeth Woods

Elizabeth Woods — Sun, 14 Jan 2024 17:35:39 +0000

Hi Rebekah, Thanks for this post. It was like looking in the mirror almost word for word by your parents! Mine were exactly the same but I don’t refer to them as parents – not anymore.
I can relate to this as my bio family was exactly like your parents. They were self obsessed and only focused on their interests and ideas. No one else mattered. I had the incessant questioning of life choices and strong opposing comments to every step forwards that I made as a child. If I tried to experiment with a new dish in the kitchen, it was belittled and thrown in the trash when I wasn’t looking. If I researched an article on a topic that interested me, it was just wrong because I wasn’t focusing on what they wanted me to do.
Every effort I made to find my own feet in this world was frowned upon and I felt stifled in that environment.
I voted with my feet and left all of them. I am much happier now and my kids are growing up free from being restrained mentally and physically.
We came from abusive families and they have no place in our lives if we want to thrive as people. We know better if we are true to ourselves and that is my gift to our future generation. Never be held back in your beliefs. You matter!

By: Lea

Lea — Sun, 14 Jan 2024 02:52:59 +0000

I need to clarify that I validate and more importantly, commend you for writing a true statement, so succinctly and effectively. Just that in itself tells me that you have actually truly experienced oppression.

It’s just hard reading that it was over a Garden., where to eat, and the financial benefit of being a teacher.

It’s just so far from actual oppression, that it makes me feel more alone, reading it.

By: Lea

Lea — Sun, 14 Jan 2024 02:43:34 +0000

I appreciate this blog and conversation, which is why I read it.

But I have to admit I am having a hard time reading it.

You have two beautiful kids. You went on and lived your life. You actually started your own life. So your parents needing some support back and needing to vent as adults to adult. It’s not covert abuse. And the fact that you went on already, and had two kids and had your own life. Just simply lets me know that they did not actually oppress you or take control of you. They let you go off and have your own life.

This article only questions whether you were the one doing the oppressing

By: Diana Gwen Dawson

Diana Gwen Dawson — Fri, 12 May 2023 01:09:34 +0000

Your home story had me rapt with attention. I was hanging on every word curious to know how you handled it. Thanks for writing and sharing. Im not alone I see!