Comments on: The Struggle to be Seen in the Workplace https://cptsdfoundation.org/2023/05/11/the-struggle-to-be-seen-in-the-workplace/ The Foundation for Post-Traumatic Healing and Complex Trauma Research Fri, 14 Jun 2024 13:58:01 +0000 hourly 1 https://wordpress.org/?v=6.9.4 By: Marilyn https://cptsdfoundation.org/2023/05/11/the-struggle-to-be-seen-in-the-workplace/#comment-24590 Wed, 27 Mar 2024 14:06:20 +0000 https://cptsdfoundation.org/?p=247224#comment-24590 I’m retired and a homemaker and suffer from CPTSD symptoms. I enjoyed reading your article and just sharing my my early childhood trauma stories has gotten easier when others share similar stories. I usually hid from my past and tried to appear ‘normal’.

]]> By: Cyndi Bennett https://cptsdfoundation.org/2023/05/11/the-struggle-to-be-seen-in-the-workplace/#comment-19663 Mon, 24 Jul 2023 10:46:04 +0000 https://cptsdfoundation.org/?p=247224#comment-19663 Hello, M. Thank you for writing back. I can understand why stepping out would feel re-triggering to you after how your roommate violated your privacy boundaries. I loved to hear that you are addressing it in therapy and that you are still thriving…of course you are.

I love that you are learning the skills to help others as a trauma-informed yoga teacher…that is awesome. Putting yourself “out there” as a business owner can feel very vulnerable, but as you do with yoga, this is a practice. It is not all or nothing. You can build up your tolerance to be seen little by little.

The thing that has helped me the most in my business is keeping my focus on the people I am trying to serve rather than on myself. When I am focused on them, it is still uncomfortable, but I have a greater purpose for the discomfort. Let me know if that makes sense or resonates with you.

]]> By: Cyndi Bennett https://cptsdfoundation.org/2023/05/11/the-struggle-to-be-seen-in-the-workplace/#comment-19662 Mon, 24 Jul 2023 10:37:09 +0000 https://cptsdfoundation.org/?p=247224#comment-19662 In reply to Elizabeth Woods.

Elizabeth, thank you for your comments. Speaking up when people are taking advantage of you is a HUGE step in being seen. It is not easy to set boundaries and enforce them, which is what you did.

Staying invisible can be more comfortable for us as survivors, but I wonder if there are other Elizabeth’s out there that you could help if you chose to show up for them. It is just a thought for consideration…there is no pressure.

]]> By: Cyndi Bennett https://cptsdfoundation.org/2023/05/11/the-struggle-to-be-seen-in-the-workplace/#comment-19661 Mon, 24 Jul 2023 10:31:16 +0000 https://cptsdfoundation.org/?p=247224#comment-19661 In reply to Shirley Davis.

Thank you for your encouraging words, Ms. Shirley. There is a definite pull to be seen and unseen at the same time, but it is not all or nothing. We can choose to be seen one day and hide the next. Having a choice is a wonderful thing.

]]> By: M https://cptsdfoundation.org/2023/05/11/the-struggle-to-be-seen-in-the-workplace/#comment-18674 Sun, 14 May 2023 21:48:52 +0000 https://cptsdfoundation.org/?p=247224#comment-18674 This is the exact problem I’m having. I am a CPTSD Survivor. A few years back, I lived with a roommate who videotaped my every move, in private and she also hacked all of my electronics. I am still in trauma therapy and this is my worst trauma and I’ve been through so much since childhood. I’m thriving and my life has changed. I am now trauma informed yoga teacher. I am also in a well-known school to become a full yoga therapist. I have to put myself out there for my business. This paralyzes me so much sometimes and I’m struggling to get business. If anyone has advice on this, I would love it

]]> By: Elizabeth Woods https://cptsdfoundation.org/2023/05/11/the-struggle-to-be-seen-in-the-workplace/#comment-18654 Thu, 11 May 2023 15:29:22 +0000 https://cptsdfoundation.org/?p=247224#comment-18654 Thank you for writing this article. As a survivor I am that invisible person at work. I’m a door mat doing all the grunt work setting everyone up. I can do their jobs easily and still choose to stay where I am. I know people have taken advantage in the past but I speak up now. It’s a small step, I know but I still prefer being invisible than in the spot light. Someone asked me a while ago to be a key note speaker at a conference which was being filmed. I couldn’t do it, even though it was to help survivors like me.

]]> By: Shirley Davis https://cptsdfoundation.org/2023/05/11/the-struggle-to-be-seen-in-the-workplace/#comment-18653 Thu, 11 May 2023 14:01:57 +0000 https://cptsdfoundation.org/?p=247224#comment-18653 Being an invisible person is tough. I have spent my life trying not to be seen, but now I have put myself out there. Your article will help so many people who are invisible and want to be part of life. Shirley

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