Comments on: One of Humanities Greatest Fears: Rejection https://cptsdfoundation.org/2023/05/29/one-of-humanities-greatest-fears-rejection/ The Foundation for Post-Traumatic Healing and Complex Trauma Research Wed, 17 Dec 2025 02:44:19 +0000 hourly 1 https://wordpress.org/?v=6.9.4 By: Krystal Brown https://cptsdfoundation.org/2023/05/29/one-of-humanities-greatest-fears-rejection/#comment-46386 Wed, 17 Dec 2025 02:44:19 +0000 https://cptsdfoundation.org/?p=248382#comment-46386 In reply to Zee.

@Zee This is one of the most horrible things I’ve read in my life. I am so sorry that happened to you and your husband. I know that toxic families will support the most unhealthy member and leave the truth teller in the dust.

]]> By: Zee https://cptsdfoundation.org/2023/05/29/one-of-humanities-greatest-fears-rejection/#comment-18850 Wed, 07 Jun 2023 00:18:43 +0000 https://cptsdfoundation.org/?p=248382#comment-18850 Thank you for writing about the subject of rejection. I too was rejected by “family” when I exposed the abuse that had been going on in my childhood through my adulthood by my family of origin. BOTH of my parents were my abusers-mainly severe physical abuse. Also verbal, mental and spiritual. Later in life my siblings followed suit with the verbal and mental abuses. They all even targeted my husband and dog!
When I set firm boundaries and consequences for their continued abuses into my adulthood they ESCALATED their abuse to extreme violence. They all conspired to lure my husband and me out of our long No Contact period. All kinds of promises and apologies…We made the mistake of “believing”/accepting what we really knew would never change. Giving them once again yet another chance. But being cautious and setting boundaries on the visit-which turned out to be a set-up. They’d preplanned a retaliatory ambush attack on us with a sibling wielding a deadly weapon at us when we arrived. My husband shielded me and got severely bludgeoned and seriously and permanently injured as a result of numerous blows to his face and head. The surprise attack left him unable to fight back-the weapon kept him from reaching his assailant to stop him. I froze and pulled my disoriented concussed husband to our car as soon as I could. And I called the police.
Long story about the police incompetence about domestic violence. And about lying family allies in abuse. The police used obvious liars as witnesses to say it was “he said/he said”. Except the EVIDENCE showed my husband was the ONLY one profusely bleeding from multiple places. Not one of the attackers had a mark on them. So no justice was done by police.
But after it was learned by my extended family that I’d called the police, EVERY ONE OF THEM TURNED THEIR BACK ON US. These relatives lived as our neighbors in the same building when I was a child and teen. They ALL knew of the ongoing abuse as well as vicious DV between parents. They saw and heard it. Did and said nothing as we children screamed for help.
So with the adult attack they did the same. Ran to the sides of the abusers. Lied for them to cover up what they’d done. Make sure the monsters’ masks were kept in place for them. They participated in the vile lies and smear campaign my now ex-family engaged in relentlessly and STILL do now years later. Not one relative or even lifelong friend of the family ever once reached out to me or my husband to see if we were OK after such a violent criminal attack. These are all professing “christians” by the way!! NOT!!!
Luckily I’d been detached from my family for decades. Kept my distance after I got married. I was the truth teller and therefore scapegoat and black sheep. “Hated” I was actually told by my ex-father. And I was. But I made a great life and long successful career of my own and have been long happily married. But this en masse “rejection” by EVERYONE I ever knew (I’m retired now from teaching and don’t have work friends anymore and my church friends all took the side of my abusers) really brought out what was probably suppressed CPTSD in me. I went from confident, independent, strong, having firm healthy boundaries.. to a sudden mess. Needed counseling and medication for the first time. I’m still recovering my “self”. I also developed a horrific chronic nerve pain daily condition that requires daily med. My life was turned upside down by people I didn’t even really associate with BECAUSE they were abuse enablers all my life and I had no respect for them. I can’t really understand why it affected me so badly. Maybe, Shirley, you can provide some insight?

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