Comments on: The Black Hole in My Brain https://cptsdfoundation.org/2023/06/16/the-black-hole-in-my-brain/ The Foundation for Post-Traumatic Healing and Complex Trauma Research Thu, 08 Aug 2024 16:45:43 +0000 hourly 1 https://wordpress.org/?v=6.9.4 By: Marilyn https://cptsdfoundation.org/2023/06/16/the-black-hole-in-my-brain/#comment-26963 Thu, 08 Aug 2024 16:45:43 +0000 https://cptsdfoundation.org/?p=247859#comment-26963 In reply to Kelly.

Thank for writing this Wendy. Your analogy of the black hole reference is dead on. I can remember aspects of my bad experiences but I do know I visit that place and I get stuck and it stops me from enjoying my self.

]]> By: Kelly https://cptsdfoundation.org/2023/06/16/the-black-hole-in-my-brain/#comment-26949 Thu, 08 Aug 2024 01:42:31 +0000 https://cptsdfoundation.org/?p=247859#comment-26949 It’s absolutely amazing what our child self’s mind can do to protect us from these horrific acts. I have huge gaps in my memory from 4 to 15 years old. And I also get pieces here and there but that’s all. Thank you for writing this, it helps knowing others understand. Also, the black hole analogy is spot on!

]]> By: Wendy Hoke https://cptsdfoundation.org/2023/06/16/the-black-hole-in-my-brain/#comment-19076 Wed, 21 Jun 2023 14:28:26 +0000 https://cptsdfoundation.org/?p=247859#comment-19076 In reply to Nelea.

Thank you for the comment, Nelea, Best wishes to you.

Wendy

]]> By: Wendy Hoke https://cptsdfoundation.org/2023/06/16/the-black-hole-in-my-brain/#comment-19075 Wed, 21 Jun 2023 14:27:27 +0000 https://cptsdfoundation.org/?p=247859#comment-19075 In reply to Susanne Zapatero.

Suzanne,

Thank you for the comment, Rest assured, I have built a nice life despite the sexual abuse. I am not staying victimized, and honestly, I don’t understand how you could interpret that from what I wrote. This blog is a place for me to muse. In fact, I reject the word “victim,” and you will find that to be true here at this blog post: https://cptsdfoundation.org/2023/04/28/compassion-and-empathy-in-the-age-of-ai/

Best, Wendy

]]> By: Susanne Zapatero https://cptsdfoundation.org/2023/06/16/the-black-hole-in-my-brain/#comment-19063 Tue, 20 Jun 2023 22:34:36 +0000 https://cptsdfoundation.org/?p=247859#comment-19063 I suppose a therapist would say, “Good, now you can integrate those memories into your daily consciousness and live a better life.” But let’s be real. That’s not what happens. I can live with the conscious memories, but I can never go back to how I would have been if the child sexual abuse had not occurred.
…and you can never go back to what would have been if the child sexual assault or any other adversity experienced, did not occur… that is true. What you can do when there is enough support in your life is create the life you want to lead whether you choose to integrate/accept, have compassion for the wounded aspects of self, or how you use your adversities to create for yourself better outcomes.
Do you stay victimized by the past and the injustices, because now you are doing this to yourself, or do you take responsibility for your life and create what you want?..doing no harm to self or other.

]]> By: Nelea https://cptsdfoundation.org/2023/06/16/the-black-hole-in-my-brain/#comment-19061 Tue, 20 Jun 2023 18:19:08 +0000 https://cptsdfoundation.org/?p=247859#comment-19061 Thanks for sharing, Wendy. I know how you feel.

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