Comments on: A Search for Identity After Abuse https://cptsdfoundation.org/2023/08/09/a-search-for-identity-after-abuse/ The Foundation for Post-Traumatic Healing and Complex Trauma Research Wed, 25 Jun 2025 14:23:01 +0000 hourly 1 https://wordpress.org/?v=6.9.4 By: Eva https://cptsdfoundation.org/2023/08/09/a-search-for-identity-after-abuse/#comment-35519 Wed, 25 Jun 2025 14:23:01 +0000 https://cptsdfoundation.org/?p=245499#comment-35519 Dear Elisabeth,
First, I would like to commend you for your strength and bravery! You are truly an inspiration to others who have been through similar childhoods. It is so very difficult to accept when you do grow up and realize that no one cared enough to protect you from anything or anyone. And every time something happens, no one ever did anything about it. It’s like every situation just keeps repeating itself because there’s nowhere to put all of that pain. Unfortunately, we share similar childhoods. However, I haven’t been able to get ahold of my life and I’m 50. I just got out of an abusive marriage of 18 years as well. Looking to truly heal and start over, I need to find out who I really am as a person! Could you please give me whatever information you have that could possibly help me? Your story amazes me, and I sincerely appreciate you sharing your most intimate trauma to help others! Sending hugs and much love to you!
Sincerely, Eva

]]> By: Marilyn https://cptsdfoundation.org/2023/08/09/a-search-for-identity-after-abuse/#comment-25065 Tue, 16 Apr 2024 14:07:39 +0000 https://cptsdfoundation.org/?p=245499#comment-25065 In reply to Marilyn.

Oops by unless I meant inlaws

]]> By: Marilyn https://cptsdfoundation.org/2023/08/09/a-search-for-identity-after-abuse/#comment-25064 Tue, 16 Apr 2024 14:05:09 +0000 https://cptsdfoundation.org/?p=245499#comment-25064 Boy, so glad I read your account of your early years. Got stuck on “painful bruises on arms and wrists from being restrained.” That didn’t happen to me but I could imagine the terror you may have felt. I was abused to and yes I met the ‘keeping quiet’ restraint from my parents, siblings and even friends, unless and generally society as a whole. Who wants to know someone who was abused! Now that the media is helping to change the status of keeping quiet…thankfully things are changing.

]]> By: Peter Baylis https://cptsdfoundation.org/2023/08/09/a-search-for-identity-after-abuse/#comment-20018 Mon, 14 Aug 2023 11:23:18 +0000 https://cptsdfoundation.org/?p=245499#comment-20018 In reply to Elizabeth Woods.

Hi – wow, what a truly awful childhood you had. And you have shown such courage in facing this stuff. I am in the early stages of having EMDR for CPTSD – my story is not the same as yours, but I am struggling with anxiety like hell at the moment. I wish you well for the future. Pete

]]> By: Elizabeth Woods https://cptsdfoundation.org/2023/08/09/a-search-for-identity-after-abuse/#comment-19968 Wed, 09 Aug 2023 21:44:04 +0000 https://cptsdfoundation.org/?p=245499#comment-19968 In reply to Diana Gwen Dawson.

Thank you Diana. Opening up is difficult but a vital part of my healing journey. Abuse is often a taboo topic but it shouldn’t be! I want the world to know that it is okay to “feel things” and to express that openly. After surviving child abuse, I want people to know what it is like to live with the horrific memories.

]]> By: Diana Gwen Dawson https://cptsdfoundation.org/2023/08/09/a-search-for-identity-after-abuse/#comment-19965 Wed, 09 Aug 2023 20:41:52 +0000 https://cptsdfoundation.org/?p=245499#comment-19965 Elizabeth, I am in awe and great appreciation. What was a horrific experience of abuse and neglect that you have opened to write will no longer be a prison for anyone who may have been silenced through muteness, fear, shame or shock. Thank you !!

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