Comments on: Attachment Wounds in the Workplace https://cptsdfoundation.org/2023/11/30/attachment-wounds-in-the-workplace/ The Foundation for Post-Traumatic Healing and Complex Trauma Research Fri, 14 Jun 2024 13:58:46 +0000 hourly 1 https://wordpress.org/?v=6.9.4 By: Cyndi Bennett https://cptsdfoundation.org/2023/11/30/attachment-wounds-in-the-workplace/#comment-22055 Tue, 05 Dec 2023 19:29:16 +0000 https://cptsdfoundation.org/?p=250172#comment-22055 In reply to Brenda.

Brenda, thank you for your kind words. Thank you also for your courage in sharing your lived experience in the workplace with me. I don’t take that lightly. It sounds like you are doing some deep, exploratory work with your therapist, so keep up the good work. It is common for trauma survivors to be drawn to the familiar rather than the uncomfortable…what is the saying, “Better the devil you know than the devil you don’t know?” Your brain is drawn to those kinds of people because it is trying to keep you safe…it already has tried and true coping strategies for those kinds of people that it can call upon. The challenge comes with trying to do something different and take a risk with the discomfort of a new experience.

There is nothing wrong with your ability to be employed…it sounds like you bring a wealth of knowledge with your lived experience. You may want to take a bold and courageous step and look for something that doesn’t feel as comfortable during the interview process…perhaps something that feels like a stretch or that would require a risk and see what that feels like to your system.

In the meantime, I would love to invite you to join me in my FREE Resilient Career Academy Community to connect with other trauma survivors working to overcome the legacy effects of trauma on their careers: https://rca.group.app/join_group/xhimgo3ME7LnzQvtPrS

]]> By: Cyndi Bennett https://cptsdfoundation.org/2023/11/30/attachment-wounds-in-the-workplace/#comment-22054 Tue, 05 Dec 2023 19:19:39 +0000 https://cptsdfoundation.org/?p=250172#comment-22054 In reply to Brad.

Brad, thank you so much for your kind words. Unfortunately, triggers abound in the workplace. I invite you to join me in my FREE Resilient Career Academy Community to connect with other trauma survivors working to overcome the legacy effects of trauma on their careers: https://rca.group.app/join_group/xhimgo3ME7LnzQvtPrS

]]> By: Cyndi Bennett https://cptsdfoundation.org/2023/11/30/attachment-wounds-in-the-workplace/#comment-22053 Tue, 05 Dec 2023 19:17:15 +0000 https://cptsdfoundation.org/?p=250172#comment-22053 In reply to Felicity Haselton.

Felicity, I’m so sorry that you had this experience. It sounds like you no longer feel like your workplace is safe because of your interaction with your supervisor. I am curious about whether there is one person at work that you feel safe with. Perhaps you can start to build safety with that person. I invite you to join my FREE Resilient Career Academy Community to connect with trauma survivors working to overcome the legacy effects of trauma on their careers. I hope to see you in there: https://rca.group.app/join_group/xhimgo3ME7LnzQvtPrS

]]> By: Brenda https://cptsdfoundation.org/2023/11/30/attachment-wounds-in-the-workplace/#comment-22050 Tue, 05 Dec 2023 15:41:49 +0000 https://cptsdfoundation.org/?p=250172#comment-22050 I greatly appreciate you sharing this story and am glad you have people at work you can securely attach to. In ruminating constantly about my last job (I was recently let go from my professional job for the 5th time in 17 years), I wonder if I’m attempting to create “secure” attachments with those in authority positions because everything I read and in discussions with my therapists are about finding secure and safe relationships as a way to assist with the healing process. Problem is, I seem to not be able to see the self-centered, controlling personalities for who they really are. I can now see so many red flags about my last boss and his need to be the center of attention all the time, to be the single source of knowledge, to appear to be the successful and put-together hero. When I questioned our processes and started mentoring younger staff, every instinct now is telling me he viewed me as a threat to his image and that played into my job loss. Problem is, I’m not either seeing them to begin with or am ignoring warning bells from my instincts. I’m not sure I’m employable again with my particular resume, but if I go back into traditional employment, I don’t know how to protect myself.

]]> By: Brad https://cptsdfoundation.org/2023/11/30/attachment-wounds-in-the-workplace/#comment-22034 Mon, 04 Dec 2023 08:59:34 +0000 https://cptsdfoundation.org/?p=250172#comment-22034 Cyndi . . . Thank you for sharing. I’ve had similar triggers take place at work, which would put me in prolonged states of dysregulation. The intrusive thoughts would surface and it was killing me. I know we’re not alone, but understanding how you, in essence, managed your manager to lead you to success was eye-opening.

Keep sharing your message, and we’ll keep receiving with an open heart space. Thank you!

]]> By: Felicity Haselton https://cptsdfoundation.org/2023/11/30/attachment-wounds-in-the-workplace/#comment-21990 Fri, 01 Dec 2023 23:52:56 +0000 https://cptsdfoundation.org/?p=250172#comment-21990 interesting article. i am avoidant. i previously saw my workplace as „safe“ and disclosed my primary dx of c-ptsd. then a supervisor called me a „hot mess“ and now i mask every day and hate my job. im not in a place mentally where i have any interest in rupture/repair. of course part of that is due to lack pf insurance (too expensive) and an overburdened MH system in my state, so ongoing talk therapy is not available.

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