https://cptsdfoundation.org/2024/04/30/join-tar-network-in-the-launch-of-tar-anon-help-build-the-a-global-free-support-network-for-victims-of-narcissistic-abuse/ The Foundation for Post-Traumatic Healing and Complex Trauma Research Wed, 21 Aug 2024 22:14:58 +0000 hourly 1 https://wordpress.org/?v=6.9.4 https://cptsdfoundation.org/2024/04/30/join-tar-network-in-the-launch-of-tar-anon-help-build-the-a-global-free-support-network-for-victims-of-narcissistic-abuse/#comment-27178 Wed, 21 Aug 2024 22:14:58 +0000 https://cptsdfoundation.org/?p=987489047#comment-27178 I listened to the WellMed event today, and I truly resonated with what Dr. Jamie was discussing. I am just now realizing at the age of 72 that I have been in a marital relationship with a narcissistic man for more than 36 years. After having devoted almost a lifetime of spiritual growth and consciousness training, I realize after having read so many good books, Don Miguel Ruiz – ‘The 4 Agreements’ and the Fifth one, too! , and Brene Brown, and also watched many videos of Dr. Ramani and am now reading her book, “Should I Stay or Should I Go?” that it was not ME!! — The betrayal, the gaslighting, the love bombing, all of it! Despite all this, I am wondering if I am too old to make this choice to leave. I know I am getting stronger and handling things differently, (which is frustrating my husband, which perpetuates the attitude), but I am getting insecure about managing myself financially if we split up. If I decide to end this toxicity and become my true advocate, do I tell him to leave the house? Get the locks changed? I think I’m freaking out about the collateral damage more than I am excited about the prospect of feeling intimacy again, or even what happiness might feel like without the abuse! I guess I need counseling! Thanks for the inspiring event today. I wish I had seen the whole thing!

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