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		By: Jesse		</title>
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		<dc:creator><![CDATA[Jesse]]></dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Tue, 18 Jun 2024 13:31:37 +0000</pubDate>
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					<description><![CDATA[In reply to &lt;a href=&quot;https://cptsdfoundation.org/2024/06/06/codependency-overriding-the-monster-of-self-hate/#comment-26079&quot;&gt;Katy&lt;/a&gt;.

Hi Katy.. &quot;a realistic cheerleader in a writing form.&quot; Ha! I love that. lol 

Thanks for dropping a comment. Very creative description. You&#039;ve either lived with that creative spark, or you have come home and have found it.

Jesse]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>In reply to <a href="https://cptsdfoundation.org/2024/06/06/codependency-overriding-the-monster-of-self-hate/#comment-26079">Katy</a>.</p>
<p>Hi Katy.. &#8220;a realistic cheerleader in a writing form.&#8221; Ha! I love that. lol </p>
<p>Thanks for dropping a comment. Very creative description. You&#8217;ve either lived with that creative spark, or you have come home and have found it.</p>
<p>Jesse</p>
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		By: Katy		</title>
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		<dc:creator><![CDATA[Katy]]></dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Tue, 18 Jun 2024 11:34:28 +0000</pubDate>
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					<description><![CDATA[In reply to &lt;a href=&quot;https://cptsdfoundation.org/2024/06/06/codependency-overriding-the-monster-of-self-hate/#comment-25909&quot;&gt;kristine&lt;/a&gt;.

Hi Jesse, thanks for writing this article!!! A realistic cheerleader in a writing form, is how it felt as I read through your work.]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>In reply to <a href="https://cptsdfoundation.org/2024/06/06/codependency-overriding-the-monster-of-self-hate/#comment-25909">kristine</a>.</p>
<p>Hi Jesse, thanks for writing this article!!! A realistic cheerleader in a writing form, is how it felt as I read through your work.</p>
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		By: Jesse Donahue		</title>
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		<dc:creator><![CDATA[Jesse Donahue]]></dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Wed, 12 Jun 2024 09:06:55 +0000</pubDate>
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					<description><![CDATA[In reply to &lt;a href=&quot;https://cptsdfoundation.org/2024/06/06/codependency-overriding-the-monster-of-self-hate/#comment-25909&quot;&gt;kristine&lt;/a&gt;.

Kristine, If you meant you are 58 today because it is your birthday, then I misunderstood. If that is the case, then let me wish you a happy birthday. Either way, I&#039;m glad you wrote.

Jesse]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>In reply to <a href="https://cptsdfoundation.org/2024/06/06/codependency-overriding-the-monster-of-self-hate/#comment-25909">kristine</a>.</p>
<p>Kristine, If you meant you are 58 today because it is your birthday, then I misunderstood. If that is the case, then let me wish you a happy birthday. Either way, I&#8217;m glad you wrote.</p>
<p>Jesse</p>
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		By: Jesse Donahue		</title>
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		<dc:creator><![CDATA[Jesse Donahue]]></dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Wed, 12 Jun 2024 08:54:28 +0000</pubDate>
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					<description><![CDATA[In reply to &lt;a href=&quot;https://cptsdfoundation.org/2024/06/06/codependency-overriding-the-monster-of-self-hate/#comment-25988&quot;&gt;Sally&lt;/a&gt;.

Hi Sally. No links to novels. Please see my comment to Mary about writing the novels. I appreciate your curiosity in them. Emotionally (the demons I wrestle with) I struggle between states of a lack of motivation and a recharged inspiration. I assure you the novels are written. I&#039;ve been stuck in a decision process of self-publishing or finding a publisher. My first novel, my training wheels project, WAS A STRUGGLE to write. It may always be a work in process. I&#039;ve titled it Rich&#039;s Marauders. It is a fanciful story of a young brother and sister who inherit billions of dollars. The young man spends his days seeking out the people responsible for murdering his parents. I like it. The other book is called Malinda&#039;s Farm, a supernatural thriller/horror about a woman who slowly comes to learn who she really is, and why her unusual &#039;hidden&#039; characteristics. This my second novel I think is better than the first, as a progression of &quot;getting it.&quot; A better developing understanding of how to write. Soon, soon, soon, famous last words. Today and this past week or two I&#039;ve been working many hours a day trying to get the books ready to send off to find a publisher. I&#039;ll get there... soon.   

Thank you for commenting and asking about my books.

Jesse]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>In reply to <a href="https://cptsdfoundation.org/2024/06/06/codependency-overriding-the-monster-of-self-hate/#comment-25988">Sally</a>.</p>
<p>Hi Sally. No links to novels. Please see my comment to Mary about writing the novels. I appreciate your curiosity in them. Emotionally (the demons I wrestle with) I struggle between states of a lack of motivation and a recharged inspiration. I assure you the novels are written. I&#8217;ve been stuck in a decision process of self-publishing or finding a publisher. My first novel, my training wheels project, WAS A STRUGGLE to write. It may always be a work in process. I&#8217;ve titled it Rich&#8217;s Marauders. It is a fanciful story of a young brother and sister who inherit billions of dollars. The young man spends his days seeking out the people responsible for murdering his parents. I like it. The other book is called Malinda&#8217;s Farm, a supernatural thriller/horror about a woman who slowly comes to learn who she really is, and why her unusual &#8216;hidden&#8217; characteristics. This my second novel I think is better than the first, as a progression of &#8220;getting it.&#8221; A better developing understanding of how to write. Soon, soon, soon, famous last words. Today and this past week or two I&#8217;ve been working many hours a day trying to get the books ready to send off to find a publisher. I&#8217;ll get there&#8230; soon.   </p>
<p>Thank you for commenting and asking about my books.</p>
<p>Jesse</p>
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		By: Jesse Donahue		</title>
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		<dc:creator><![CDATA[Jesse Donahue]]></dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Wed, 12 Jun 2024 08:34:37 +0000</pubDate>
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					<description><![CDATA[I can&#039;t do it. I&#039;m not good enough. These are the frames of mind I find myself confronting from a learned attitude I seem to suffer. Learned helplessness. Hi. Thanks for commenting. Your bright attitude toward the essay makes ME want to go back and read it... Thank you.

What happened to me 9 years ago now that inspired me to try to write a novel? Insanity I think on the one hand. Perhaps grandiosity on the other. Somehow I just wanted to prove to myself I could do it. 9 years later I&#039;m still processing and working on my first novel. To the best of my abilities, it is about 99% finished. I don&#039;t know if a publisher would agree with that. My other novel is finished but sitting on a shelf. Procrastination, perhaps fear of success, feeling it&#039;s not good enough, these emotional insecurities hold me back. 

That same attitude toward my essays like the one you just read held me back from sharing. Then one day I did try to share and the editor at the foundation liked my writings. You just never know how false misperceptions of our creations are just that... false. As for my starting writing at 58, it is never too late to learn who you are. Being creative in one fashion or another seems to be a well-spring toward self-healing and personal development. Creativity is our birthright. We all need to find an avenue to be creative in. It makes us feel alive. Inspired.


Jesse]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>I can&#8217;t do it. I&#8217;m not good enough. These are the frames of mind I find myself confronting from a learned attitude I seem to suffer. Learned helplessness. Hi. Thanks for commenting. Your bright attitude toward the essay makes ME want to go back and read it&#8230; Thank you.</p>
<p>What happened to me 9 years ago now that inspired me to try to write a novel? Insanity I think on the one hand. Perhaps grandiosity on the other. Somehow I just wanted to prove to myself I could do it. 9 years later I&#8217;m still processing and working on my first novel. To the best of my abilities, it is about 99% finished. I don&#8217;t know if a publisher would agree with that. My other novel is finished but sitting on a shelf. Procrastination, perhaps fear of success, feeling it&#8217;s not good enough, these emotional insecurities hold me back. </p>
<p>That same attitude toward my essays like the one you just read held me back from sharing. Then one day I did try to share and the editor at the foundation liked my writings. You just never know how false misperceptions of our creations are just that&#8230; false. As for my starting writing at 58, it is never too late to learn who you are. Being creative in one fashion or another seems to be a well-spring toward self-healing and personal development. Creativity is our birthright. We all need to find an avenue to be creative in. It makes us feel alive. Inspired.</p>
<p>Jesse</p>
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		By: Sally		</title>
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		<dc:creator><![CDATA[Sally]]></dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Tue, 11 Jun 2024 21:41:24 +0000</pubDate>
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					<description><![CDATA[Please put links for your novels. A google search has not been helpful.]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>Please put links for your novels. A google search has not been helpful.</p>
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		By: Mary		</title>
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		<dc:creator><![CDATA[Mary]]></dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Tue, 11 Jun 2024 21:29:51 +0000</pubDate>
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					<description><![CDATA[Fantastic article!! Totally resonated with me and probably the best explanation of self hatred stemming from developmental trauma.  

I was also encouraged by the same thing regarding you taking up writing at 58. I’m 47 and been feeling washed up so that was inspiring.]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>Fantastic article!! Totally resonated with me and probably the best explanation of self hatred stemming from developmental trauma.  </p>
<p>I was also encouraged by the same thing regarding you taking up writing at 58. I’m 47 and been feeling washed up so that was inspiring.</p>
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		By: Jesse Donahue		</title>
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		<dc:creator><![CDATA[Jesse Donahue]]></dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Tue, 11 Jun 2024 11:04:03 +0000</pubDate>
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					<description><![CDATA[In reply to &lt;a href=&quot;https://cptsdfoundation.org/2024/06/06/codependency-overriding-the-monster-of-self-hate/#comment-25909&quot;&gt;kristine&lt;/a&gt;.

Hi Kristine - I am 67. It was weird taking up writing at that age. It was like waking up, having lived life as an ostrich, with my head firmly stuck in the sand. If you read my writing &quot;What an Outside Appearance May Not Show,&quot; you&#039;ll see as I started writing at 58 I was unclear in most all respects of the rules of grammar, punctuation, etc. : ) I made a bit of a goofed decision to write a novel, and just out of the blue and on a whim. Me? I was driven! Eight to twelve hours a day for five to six months. That included learning as I went along, which meant taking one hundred pages at one point and tossing them to the waste bin. That was half of a novel.

What you read in my writings are essentially my weekly therapy notes or my journal. I never would have thunk that I would have penned two novels, poems, and the essays you see on the Foundations website. I feel good about it too. Thanks for writing. I always appreciate hearing what people are thinking when they finish an article. I&#039;m very grateful you wrote.

Jesse]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>In reply to <a href="https://cptsdfoundation.org/2024/06/06/codependency-overriding-the-monster-of-self-hate/#comment-25909">kristine</a>.</p>
<p>Hi Kristine &#8211; I am 67. It was weird taking up writing at that age. It was like waking up, having lived life as an ostrich, with my head firmly stuck in the sand. If you read my writing &#8220;What an Outside Appearance May Not Show,&#8221; you&#8217;ll see as I started writing at 58 I was unclear in most all respects of the rules of grammar, punctuation, etc. : ) I made a bit of a goofed decision to write a novel, and just out of the blue and on a whim. Me? I was driven! Eight to twelve hours a day for five to six months. That included learning as I went along, which meant taking one hundred pages at one point and tossing them to the waste bin. That was half of a novel.</p>
<p>What you read in my writings are essentially my weekly therapy notes or my journal. I never would have thunk that I would have penned two novels, poems, and the essays you see on the Foundations website. I feel good about it too. Thanks for writing. I always appreciate hearing what people are thinking when they finish an article. I&#8217;m very grateful you wrote.</p>
<p>Jesse</p>
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		By: kristine		</title>
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		<dc:creator><![CDATA[kristine]]></dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Fri, 07 Jun 2024 04:15:45 +0000</pubDate>
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					<description><![CDATA[I am 58 today - it makes me feel good to know that you took something up at this age. Bless your mission.]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>I am 58 today &#8211; it makes me feel good to know that you took something up at this age. Bless your mission.</p>
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