I hear you Tellina, and thank you for naming what so many, still today are experiencing…
sometimes even professionals hide out in their comfort zones and are being traumatized by the very systems they train and work in. The freeze response is even more prevalent in our daily lives and healthcare systems than people have recognized or maybe care to admit. It sounds like your doctor froze .. which created a deeper wound for you, because your body felt that .. when you most needed help, the doctor didn’t have the nervous system capacity to hold you.

It’s like trying to turn a gigantic slow moving ship .. that turning feels far too slow coming for many. It’s leaves those gaping wounds of grief and anger from not being heard and adequately helped to a point of it feeling like cruelty.

When you’re stuck in survival mode and reach out for help, it is so underestimated what that takes. And more information does not necessarily equate to more embodied understanding or healing.

There is no doubt about it, there are changes, they are slow coming and even doctors/healthcare workers/teacher’s/therapists themselves are trying to make a stand – to stand up to the systems – . They are literally learning along side us.

I’m grateful to the CPTSD foundation for being part of that change and to really reassure people [I work with people from all ages from 30’s to 70’s] It’s never to late and I will continue to do my bit and to share in a way that speaks to the hearts, souls and minds of those who feel stuck because of broken external systems from healthcare to educational to family systems and beyond.

Peoples experiences like yours, is where the research needs to live… and everything they need to learn from is right here. Thank you for taking the time to read, and comment.. every time you do, you are contributing to that much needed change.
I appreciate you and know I’m right beside with this need for movement. I can’t erase the trail of destruction but what I hope to leave you with today is a shared foundation of hope with action.

Hello Chrissy, not being believed is such added insult to your trauma, people who can tolerate the thought of such things will often try to apply shame on truth teller. Please know my heart is with you and your truth has been heard. The ‘get over it’ part again is down to their intolerance and when people don’t understand trauma, they can’t understand that healing involves careful sequencing and that its not something you just ‘get over’. Thank you for reaching out and for sharing, this is why this foundation is here.
I send out different resources to email subscribers weekly and there are also some blogs there that might spark some relief of finally feeling heard. At the end of this blog you can find my website, LinkedIn page and you tube channel ..a lot of people have appreciated my posts and free resources there.
Other amazing and understanding humans would be Dr.Scott Lyons and Dr. Arielle Schwartz, DR. Ruth Lanius and a book that has stood the test of time is titled ‘From Surviving to Thriving’ by Pete Walker .. Hope you find all this somewhat helpful

There is such a long waiting time for the treatment due to the amount of people needing it because of the north of ireland troubles.

We sometimes forget that our nervous systems don’t live in isolation.
They live in relationship.

The closer someone is to us emotionally, the more our nervous system perceives their state as relevant to our survival and belonging.

So when:
A partner becomes reactive or dysregulated.

Our nervous system doesn’t just observe it, it often tracks it as meaningful and for very good reasons.

It can be so hard to be there for each other at a nervous system level if we don’t understand that might be going on for each other.

Thank you for sharing something many deeply caring, trauma self-aware people experience. I hope it’s somewhat helpful.

I apologize, I’m only catching this now Brain
I’m running a free Nervous System Basics resource beginning March 3rd 2026
and it’s running through to the first week in April.
Feel free join, no need to register, you can join my email list by signing up for my newsletter and it will arrive straight to your inbox.

You are welcome John. I’m so glad, you tripped across this and that it has been a valuable resource to you. You’ve been waiting a long time.

I have been recently diagnosed with severe ptsd from childhood and teenage trauma. I am waiting 2 years so far for treatment but reading your article is truly remarkable in helping me to understand and take the first step to healing and to be me again . Thank you