Comments on: When Grief Has No Grave: Rebuilding After a Childhood You Never Got

By: B

Fri, 12 Dec 2025 16:14:08 +0000

My dad abandoned us when I was 7, so my mom had to go to work, there were 3 of us kids, this meant that I had to fill her shoes some of the time….I remember thinking “I’m just a kid, this is a job for my mom/dad…but it’s up to me.” He wasn’t paying any support so me & my brother were required to call him and ask him to send $. Later I asked mt mom “did he send it? No.”
I thought I had dealt with this a long time ago, but reading the title “What are you still grieving that you never put a name on?”

By: Heather

Heather — Thu, 29 May 2025 04:52:58 +0000

In reply to JR. Wow, this is profound on every level. Thank you!

By: Ellie

Ellie — Tue, 13 May 2025 23:16:05 +0000

What a wonderful article. It gives voice to the constant sense of loss and perpetual grief I’ve been living with since I can remember. Like a body of water, I find myself submerged into the body of grief, that’s how strong and overbearing it feels, like it has a presence and power of it’s own. I’m glad I found this now; I’m trying (and struggling) to honor my losses.

By: Christine Price

Christine Price — Mon, 12 May 2025 20:06:32 +0000

In reply to er. Moving article, I have felt that grief in all its dimensions. That inner child is stuck in the past with images and feelings that are deeply disturbing. The CPTSD Foundation, the Trauma Research Foundation and Nicamb every now and again offer free courses which have helped a great deal on this journey, as did Dr Colin Ross podcasts! I am deeply grateful for all the work they do. Thank you. It is a struggle! I empathise with all those on this journey and wish them and myself moments of calm and lightness to help us appreciate that the past is the past and we are working with symptoms in the present. Breaking it down may or may not help but it helps me not all of the time but sometimes! 🙏🙏🙏🙏

By: Connie Calvert

Connie Calvert — Wed, 07 May 2025 06:18:48 +0000

I relate to this article. Thank you for sharing an honest experience.

By: Melissa

Melissa — Tue, 06 May 2025 21:44:18 +0000

In reply to er. Thank you for putting words to what I thought previously was impossible to describe. I feel supported and less alone thanks to your work healing and describing your journey. It was truly a gift to read.

By: er

er — Tue, 06 May 2025 12:24:26 +0000

Thank you. At 58 the I wanted for myself. Without the mother who was not ever good enough, who I lied to to be loved? I cannot deal with it & I cannot find help.
Your piece is beautiful.
💔 😔 💔 😢

By: JR

JR — Tue, 06 May 2025 11:03:55 +0000

In reply to Susan. Lovely, and I hope to share with clients.

By: Susan

Susan — Wed, 30 Apr 2025 22:04:11 +0000

I needed to read this today. I’m currently trying to balance my grief with gratitude for the second chance at life I’ve been given. It’s harder somedays than others. Thank you for your beautiful and encouraging words ❤️