Comments on: The Wounds That Don’t Show https://cptsdfoundation.org/2025/05/08/the-wounds-that-dont-show/ The Foundation for Post-Traumatic Healing and Complex Trauma Research Fri, 16 May 2025 14:29:13 +0000 hourly 1 https://wordpress.org/?v=6.9.4 By: roseanne https://cptsdfoundation.org/2025/05/08/the-wounds-that-dont-show/#comment-34050 Fri, 16 May 2025 14:29:13 +0000 https://cptsdfoundation.org/?p=987500392#comment-34050 Hello Kari, thank you for your deep reflections and although this is Not advice in any way shape or form, what I feel from your inquiry is some how related to controlling the narrative – ‘protection’ comes to mind .. a nervous system that does not feels safe will try to protect us from further harm in many different ways..
Also something I reflect upon sometimes is the ‘wounded protector’ and the wounded healer.. when we recognize certain patterns we can nurture the lightening speed ‘rescuer within’ through creating space for clarity via nervous system regulation ..

hope this gives you a little food for thought .. as you continue your healing journey and thank you for your comment and for taking the time to read.

]]> By: Roseanne https://cptsdfoundation.org/2025/05/08/the-wounds-that-dont-show/#comment-34049 Fri, 16 May 2025 14:19:43 +0000 https://cptsdfoundation.org/?p=987500392#comment-34049 In reply to LJ.

I appreciate you stopping by to read LJ. Journaling is an excellent resource to help us digest the depth of the meaning within this article as it speaks to you and your individual journey of recovery.

]]> By: Kari https://cptsdfoundation.org/2025/05/08/the-wounds-that-dont-show/#comment-33971 Tue, 13 May 2025 18:21:21 +0000 https://cptsdfoundation.org/?p=987500392#comment-33971 I’m amazed at how many things I can still learn after years of recovery. I ‘sensed’ that going numb was a coping mechanism; this story reinforced that belief.
I haven’t for years understood why I can never tell when I’m full until hours later, or that I have to ‘go number 2’ until I’m already in the toilet due to urgent frequency to urinate. This helps to explain that.
One thing that I haven’t seen addressed is “running cover” for others. When I read through some old journal entries from my junior high years, I read in my own words, how I took the blame for bad things that my friends or boyfriends actually did. An example: a friend invited over two strange teen boys to my home when we were 15. I distinctly remember fuming at her, telling her to call them back and tell them to stay home, to which she replied, “Too late? They’re already on their way.” This was the 80s so no cell phones. I was so angry with her! But my journal read, “D and I invited a couple of guys over…” I did not invite them! I see that same pattern over and over again in my journal entries. “I stole blocks from the kindergarten room,” no, I did not. S did that.
The tone seems happy-go-lucky, “Oh, well!” / “Everything is awesome,” but I distinctly remember at the time, feeling hurt or put out or somehow offended or angry when the so-called friends did things, and let me take the fall for them. I remember pleading with them, and being ignored or coerced into giving in to their demands.
I guess I was used to it by then?
Is that too a trauma response? Jumping in front of trains for others, who wouldn’t think twice about pushing you in front of one were the roles reversed?

]]> By: LJ https://cptsdfoundation.org/2025/05/08/the-wounds-that-dont-show/#comment-33965 Tue, 13 May 2025 14:45:04 +0000 https://cptsdfoundation.org/?p=987500392#comment-33965 Roseanne,

Brilliant article! I could journal for the next year prompted by this article alone.

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