Comments on: Are You Having A Bad Day? Glimmers of Hope in the Darkness https://cptsdfoundation.org/2025/08/19/are-you-having-a-bad-day-glimmers-of-hope-in-the-darkness/ The Foundation for Post-Traumatic Healing and Complex Trauma Research Mon, 01 Sep 2025 13:30:23 +0000 hourly 1 https://wordpress.org/?v=6.9.4 By: Elizabeth Woods https://cptsdfoundation.org/2025/08/19/are-you-having-a-bad-day-glimmers-of-hope-in-the-darkness/#comment-41076 Mon, 01 Sep 2025 13:30:23 +0000 https://cptsdfoundation.org/?p=987501008#comment-41076 In reply to Linda Thompson.

Hey there, Linda. Thank you for reading and commenting. I think recovering from trauma takes a life time but it is also how we choose to live. The change has got to come from you. It must be tough to be in a relationship where you care for someone but they are also abusive.
I wanted to reach out and say to you that it’s never to late to start living for yourself. 71 is not old in today’s standards. Start with little things. Take a walk with a friend or meet for a coffee. Your husband won’t want to join you, so put him in front of the TV (sports) and have your freedom.
Little by little I can guarantee you will start feeling better. Take care Linda. I’m with you in spirit. Know that you are not alone.

]]> By: Linda Thompson https://cptsdfoundation.org/2025/08/19/are-you-having-a-bad-day-glimmers-of-hope-in-the-darkness/#comment-40771 Tue, 26 Aug 2025 14:30:49 +0000 https://cptsdfoundation.org/?p=987501008#comment-40771 Am very glad you were able to leave that all behind. My brain didn’t tell me how abused I was until 71. The shame and guilt, the fear was always with me where y I chose partners who instilled the same feelings and emotions my narc mother gave me: abuse = love. Am caregiver to second husband, who never hit me but has abused me in different ways. Perhaps if had been able to have come out of the trauma coma by at least in my 50s, maybe I would have created the needed boundaries. Instead, I walked on eggshells all my life. My depression is because life passed me by as I people pleased just looking for crumbs of acceptance and most importantly, unconditional love.

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