Comments on: Lost Child Syndrome.

By: Land Omoze

Land Omoze — Sun, 01 Mar 2026 14:52:22 +0000

In reply to Shirley Davis. I'm grateful for this article. I can't talk about childhood trauma right now 😢

By: Sarah Johnson

Sarah Johnson — Tue, 26 Aug 2025 13:24:36 +0000

In reply to Meagan.

I see you girl! She’s missing the mark and following their architectural design and not that of the VICTIMS IN ALL THIS BS.

You’re not some pinball already exhiled in every capacity for not being able to puppet for everyone. This is awful advice. Especially when the mass majority aren’t even trauma informed.

Have you ever played the game of telephone 😉

We all know how that ends…every single time.

Feel free to reach out. I am and was in your shoes.

It’s about what they’re not saying where our power lies and we get to rise in our authority of this.

Signed Sarah-Chasity Johnson

By: monty

monty — Wed, 14 May 2025 10:41:40 +0000

In reply to chey.

Hi Shirley,

Great write-up.

However, I noticed you switch between neutral and feminine pronouns for a hypothetical child.

The writing would read more smoothly if you just used “they”. It was quite jarring to be reading about things that relate to me, then the sudden pronoun switch made me feel like I was no longer connecting with what I was reading (even though I experienced this perfectly).

Appreciate the writeup nonetheless. It helped me figure out how I ended up here.

By: mystic

mystic — Wed, 07 May 2025 05:34:14 +0000

In reply to DW. Sounds like your mother was a Narcissist, and would never validate your accomplishments as she was too interseted in her own drama.

By: Paul R Lucero

Paul R Lucero — Sat, 09 Nov 2024 21:05:32 +0000

My name is Paul. I am the oldest of 5 I’m 61 and am going through a hard time reliving my life. Everything was wrong and between my adolescence and now is almost a complete blur. What I do know is things were not right. I’m to old to remember everything, but I know I haven’t been right. I’m worried and scared. Please help me

By: oskar

oskar — Tue, 02 Apr 2024 14:00:55 +0000

In reply to randy Ernst. I’m scared by the fact how accurate It is to me. Maybe I’m not the problem.

By: A

Sun, 31 Dec 2023 07:35:31 +0000

In reply to Shirley Davis. Ngl but that doesn't work. As an autistic women with CPTSD, therapists are more likely to try and reenact the issues of my childhood on steroids due to the field's systematic abuse/dehumanization of neurodivergance. Most therapists will not even allow me to show emotions as I don't 'look normal' when expressing them, have needs/boundaries (even asking questions), etc. Therapy by design is designed to be a place for normal neurotypicals while people who are different have to mask.

By: DW

DW — Thu, 28 Dec 2023 21:09:34 +0000

Hey – thank you for this description. This fits me almost perfectly. I’m a third child, who often tried to be invisible, from a dysfunctional and at times abusive family. My father turned to me one day to say in surprise: oh wow, she is the “forgotten child.” I don’t think I tried to fix things however, or imagine that I could. I think I had the opposite problem and thought I couldn’t really affect others much, and was surprised in relationships when people asked me what I wanted, or needed, and that what I said or did could be hurtful. If you feel like you don’t matter, it is shock to realize that sometimes you do! I also had an issue.. an ongoing issue, where I think I’ve tried very hard to accomplish things that I think will make my family like or love me or be proud of me, and it never really seems to work. New job, degrees, new skills, performances, good grades. It doesn’t seem to mean much, or solve things, or secure love and affection. It’s a lesson I struggle to learn. And then I don’t know exactly what I want, because I’ve based my life on what I imagine others might want.

By: Lizzie

Lizzie — Wed, 08 Nov 2023 00:40:39 +0000

In reply to Meagan. Without invalidating your feelings, the role of a therapist is to not be your friend or disclose to much information to you as that would be crossing professional boundaries. Therapy can be hard with so many limitations like the number of sessions and the 50 minute sessions, and you won’t always feel a connection with the therapist, and even harder to do so as a lost child. I know this from experience, the therapist job is to help you challenge your Own thoughts and feelings. A friend is someone who gives advice, a therapist will not do that. If you can’t challenge your own thoughts and beliefs then it’s gonna be hard to form better relationships. I’m sure your last therapist would of have a reason not to continue, I wouldn’t take it so personally. Hope you can find some peace and love on your journey. Wishing all the best

By: randy Ernst

randy Ernst — Tue, 15 Aug 2023 20:25:41 +0000

This is me to a T !!!!!!!