Comments on: The Little Big Things that Childhood Trauma Keeps us from Doing. https://cptsdfoundation.org/2021/01/22/the-little-big-things-that-childhood-trauma-keeps-us-from-doing/ The Foundation for Post-Traumatic Healing and Complex Trauma Research Sun, 31 Aug 2025 17:16:29 +0000 hourly 1 https://wordpress.org/?v=6.9.4 By: Ben https://cptsdfoundation.org/2021/01/22/the-little-big-things-that-childhood-trauma-keeps-us-from-doing/#comment-41039 Sun, 31 Aug 2025 17:16:29 +0000 https://cptsdfoundation.org/?p=234574#comment-41039 In reply to HAZ.

Didn’t go to the dentist for 5 years …thank you for your honesty and forthrightness:)❤️‍🩹

]]> By: Essey https://cptsdfoundation.org/2021/01/22/the-little-big-things-that-childhood-trauma-keeps-us-from-doing/#comment-4823 Mon, 17 May 2021 07:53:16 +0000 https://cptsdfoundation.org/?p=234574#comment-4823 In reply to Anonymous.

I haven’t related so much to a piece of writing, and also the above reply – ever!
I only go to a dentist if in extreme pain, and haven’t seen a gynaecologist for a couple of decades until this year when I found out you can do a self test Pap smear.
Unfortunately for me, the results mean I have to go and have a colposcopy at the hospital. I’m thinking about cancelling.
I know that’s all wrong, I just can’t stand being interfered with any more.
Even hairdressers are hard for me.
I’m glad it’s not just me. I’m also sad it’s not just me.
My father hated/loved me, never understood I was a child and I found him in every man I got involved with.
Is there any way to get better?

]]> By: Brian https://cptsdfoundation.org/2021/01/22/the-little-big-things-that-childhood-trauma-keeps-us-from-doing/#comment-4628 Sat, 01 May 2021 16:18:46 +0000 https://cptsdfoundation.org/?p=234574#comment-4628 I can do the dentist, I can see Doctors with hesitation, but nurses freak me out so I delay a lot of stuff. So I can relate, Your not alone. Those nurses traumatized me as a kid. Haunts me to this day.

]]> By: Tia Manon https://cptsdfoundation.org/2021/01/22/the-little-big-things-that-childhood-trauma-keeps-us-from-doing/#comment-3473 Sat, 30 Jan 2021 00:33:29 +0000 https://cptsdfoundation.org/?p=234574#comment-3473 Oh my! This is me. I just shared it with fiance to show him that I’m not alone in this fear.
Thank you for sharing and I’m so sorry you had to endure all that and I’m glad you’re able to talk about it.

]]> By: Amanda https://cptsdfoundation.org/2021/01/22/the-little-big-things-that-childhood-trauma-keeps-us-from-doing/#comment-3447 Wed, 27 Jan 2021 17:45:05 +0000 https://cptsdfoundation.org/?p=234574#comment-3447 It took me years before I could go to the dentist. I paid for insurance for years but could never go. Finally I went and I spoke to my new dentist about my past trauma. Thankfully he was kind and understanding, he also had read some research on trauma and dentistry care. He stated he would always have a female dental tech in with us.

]]> By: Anonymous https://cptsdfoundation.org/2021/01/22/the-little-big-things-that-childhood-trauma-keeps-us-from-doing/#comment-3433 Tue, 26 Jan 2021 16:01:48 +0000 https://cptsdfoundation.org/?p=234574#comment-3433 Hello to all..

This is me, yes I can completely relate to this 100%. My teeth are slowly falling apart due to the medication I took as a child from living in a home that would exacerbate my breathing conditions. I have not been (and strange enough) still have not gone to a gynecologist because of shame…after years of not being wanted by my father, I unconsciously looked for acceptance in men with my body..thinking all I was good for was to make them feel good. I never thought my words were important ..as I was dumb… to be seen and not heard. I had a learning “disability” that was then spurred on by my CPTSD… so as I got older I learned how to find acceptance from men.

In my older years, I became pregnant out of wedlock which then made my father look at me with further disdain, and I left.
I left to have my child and live in a home of constant abuse, mental, emotional, sexual and physical abuse. I made sure my child went to the care providers but I left myself go to be sure everything and everyone else was cared for.

I then moved on when I turned 29 unable to withstand one more day of survival mode(although I am still stuck in it and why I am here with all of you) I never healed, I never figured out what I was doing…I continued on…. secretly online dating and sexual conquests for men’s love and approval, only to end up with multiple abortions(please don’t judge I feel enough guilt/shame thank you) and situations I should have never let myself get involved in. I hid all of this from my daughter and work environment thinking I was such a failure not finding a man to be secure with…

Why do I share all of this with you? I share because this poem deeply resonated with me, My daughter who is now 26, her father died from substance abuse and a life he never addressed his wounds other than with sex, drugs alcohol and violence. She is left without a father and abandonment issues. I was having pain and discomfort in my body, I packed a bag and threw it in my car..knowing if this continued that she could not lose another parent. Two days later at 1 am I went to the ER…had multiple tests ran only for them to think it was anxiety…The ER doctor sat next to me holding my hand and asked me if I was ok… I explained of my abdomen discomfort but felt it was middle age… turns out after he pressed on my abdomen …he didn’t like what he felt ..

Two hours later and more tests came to reveal tumors….not just one.. there were multiple throughout my abdomen, cervix, uterus, appendix) This is how i manifested my trauma…. The same happened with my teeth and I ended up having several pulled. I was so ashamed when I was there… I rememeber every time I left feeling so my shame and not understanding why I did this to myself… and feeling as though everyone looked at me a certain way..when in reality.. they just know something deep is going on with you and let’s get this part fixed…and move on to fixing our minds as to not continue down this pathway…

In the end, I had all the tumors removed and they were non-cancerous..I am so thankful…the same with my teeth..(I am still working on them.. and it is hard) Each day is a struggle and I have come a long way,,, BUT I still fight things like the the gyne and dentist(which I have been gone but need to return after COVID)

This poem made me realize why I a am avoidant…. this group made me realize why I had done these behaviors that were completely again at my moral code but it was almost like I went numb and just kept doing them…. it is now time to address them as I have asked for forgiveness and live with it daily but know that this might help someone out there that is deeply struggling to go to the doctor… or dentist… You have value <3 You are loved and it will be ok .. go take care of yourself.. you only have this one life and it is worth living to the fullest <3 I vision sitting with you and holding your hand … cry and get it out …. because today is the day to start living again …there are people who care .. blessings, hugs and love to you

]]> By: Kimberly Logan https://cptsdfoundation.org/2021/01/22/the-little-big-things-that-childhood-trauma-keeps-us-from-doing/#comment-3426 Tue, 26 Jan 2021 11:37:56 +0000 https://cptsdfoundation.org/?p=234574#comment-3426 I don’t think I have related with anything more than this!

]]> By: HAZ https://cptsdfoundation.org/2021/01/22/the-little-big-things-that-childhood-trauma-keeps-us-from-doing/#comment-3409 Sat, 23 Jan 2021 17:47:16 +0000 https://cptsdfoundation.org/?p=234574#comment-3409 This feels like you are describing me. I have not been to the dentist in 10 years and never once had a Pap smear. I hate people examining and judging me. I feel like I’d rather die than face this fear. I have a lot of healing to do.

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