Having kids now in my late 40s, I don’t understand how we could be so cruel for well over a decade. We, however, were young and highly insecure but some of us were just plain sociopathic and cruel. I

I know a few kids were suicidal and one did kill himself when we were only 15.. There were rumors he was gay and had it bad at home as the others did but he actually pulled it off. It was different back then but it seems the same only the majority now isn’t as violent. Bad either way,

I wonder though why do is former bullies never apologize? Entitlement and dismissiveness for some but cannot get past it. Is it pride, or intense guilt? I think fear plays a path being how bad some are likely now? It’s a touchy yet constant subject, kids re predictable yet equally horrible.

You think when you age you’re over it but it’s a part of you, your personality, and your behaviors. You avoid things purposely, you’re paranoid, you jump quickly and so on. It’s all because of this whether 15( or 61, or 75. You bury it and it’s only sporadic when triggered then something happens to you years later and it’s daily.

Non triggered horrible memories multiple times a day without warning is bad enough but the problem it’s non stop and comes when it wants, This is why many with this true hell commit suicide. There is no out. I wouldn’t wish it on anyone. Damage done.

Nah group sure as hell did. My daughter suffers from it and it’s fairly common even decades later. We had a few we made fun of for a decade or so all because he was shy. Always laughing, all staring at the same time to make him twitch, teasing, calling him ugly and the boys beating him up. I wonder about him sometimes but I know he’s been in trouble with the law and some other weird things your from others. Makes me nauseous but we never apologized. Is it too late?

Last I heard he was on H and I wonder if that in part was because of us? Can’t say for sure but it lingers in my mind sometimes if the subject comes about. Sickens me we never apologized or cared enough to think about what we were doing let alone possibly creating:

Age 10 then got it from bullies at school all day till we graduated, when k see them around town thankfully now it’s rare, they still think I’m shh which I’ve not
Been in almost three decades: maybe it’s guilt or regret but they never say anything. Body language speaks volumes for some.

Mine was always just triggered from the usual cues and sporadic bit now for the lady 4 years it’s daily 8-10 times a day and vertigo before each one. I welcome death though I have since. A chile. Nothing helps and people suck, I’ve tried it all but if you’re not a vet which most aren’t, they tilt their heads like dogs. Beyond aggravating but you get used to it. We’re all the same just different traumas.

Sounds like some of you truly did a number on him if he’s got c-ptsd in adulthood, though I’d imagine he had it from other things and people as well. It never goes away.

Like the old saying, you may be done with the past but the past isn’t done with you. It won’t let you go and forget. It’s true; I would find a way to reach out to him. Being my joke of a human being bullies never did squat the fact decades later it’s affecting you means something. Reach out.

I got an old former pal who made a lot of us nervous a couple years ago because if some severely unpredictable behavior that caught us off guard myself included. It wasn’t dangerous but nobody could figure it out . He got in trouble with the cops but we had a lot of empathy for him but some ignorance.

We did know that it was because her all were horrible to him for about a decade. Found found out many years later that he got it at home too like many of us did, and it makes perfect sense with how shy and nervous he was: a sensitive, quiet type. Thankfully, he’s nothing like that now, however, I fear we made it worse.

What I now know is that he evidently had PTSD from abuse and. Severe bullying since a little kid. From us it started in fourth grade through high school, and I feel like garbage. We helped create this.

The weird thing was he was fine for years or just a good actor but nothing like this but least he’s a talker now, j asked him a bit ago an he told me he buried it and tried living his life and he did, but from some experience , I know this type of stuff never fully leaves.

His is severe , that he has c – ptsd . Yangs a new germ for me. Cops all know how bad it is hospital, social workers, security guards, mental health clinicians, case workers etc because nobody would help the guy for years.

Some of us want to apologize , as he told me personally over false rumors that he I never wanted any of us dead which was a fake rumor one of us started decades ago, he had never heard it until our late 20s and he was pissed.

He said he just wanted us to stop ,but we didn’t for about a decade daily. He even got it from underclassmen that show shh he was. No wonder he’s so messed up.

Something clearly happened to him a few years ago to make him so off , unlike before. Some event but I hadn’t seen him before that in almost a decade but before he was fine for decades so why now?

Something triggered it again or it just always was and we see what we choose to see. Should we apologize? He feels bad for what happened a few years ago but nobody will speak with him. I told him they’re more fake now than decades ago.

The reason is fear and guilt. He’d like to talk and is. A friendly guy just damaged as he says. Afraid something bad js gonna happen but I know we’re fine, it’s him. Sorry this is so long.

Found out a couple years ago he’s been in and out of hospitals for decades for severe c-ptsd which I’d never even heard of. While I know the majority of people with ptsd aren’t vets as it’s just trauma, how can I help him?

Meds do nothing but make these guys worse and therapy
doesn’t seem to help with anything except cause more issues. He has other horrible disorders also and j know for a fact we all caused two of them.

Suicide seems the only way out being it’s how most end up with it, it seems and he’s been that way since a kid he just thought he hid it well but I knew.

I feel horrible as I wasn’t much of a friend and joined in on the fun. Afraid he’s going to take his life. His family is trash in how they talk to him but I think they strangely think they know better when they don’t know anything.

Weird thing is was he beat it and seemed normal for decades which he was but guess he hid it well or it just worsened with age. Smart and funny guy but definitely not happy. Had a nervous breakdown a few years ago. It’s heartbreaking and we’re almost 50. Is there anything I can do? I don’t want to trigger him but he’d a rough guy to still be alive with all I know he’s been through and I’m sure there’s much worse he kept hidden.