Comments on: The Double Standard of Adoption & Pro-life https://cptsdfoundation.org/2022/02/23/the-double-standard-of-adoption-pro-life/ The Foundation for Post-Traumatic Healing and Complex Trauma Research Tue, 21 May 2024 13:28:28 +0000 hourly 1 https://wordpress.org/?v=6.9.4 By: Shelly Nixon https://cptsdfoundation.org/2022/02/23/the-double-standard-of-adoption-pro-life/#comment-25680 Tue, 21 May 2024 13:28:28 +0000 https://cptsdfoundation.org/?p=239685#comment-25680 In reply to Abigail Marshall.

Thank you

]]> By: Shane Bouel https://cptsdfoundation.org/2022/02/23/the-double-standard-of-adoption-pro-life/#comment-18491 Wed, 12 Apr 2023 22:32:37 +0000 https://cptsdfoundation.org/?p=239685#comment-18491 Thank you both for commenting. As an adoptee, I completely agree that adoption is not a gift. It is a traumatic experience for both the child and the birth mother. The system was purposely made this way to benefit the adoptive parents and agencies, rather than prioritizing family preservation.

I strongly support the two suggestions mentioned to ease the burden on adoptees and their mental health, including the issuance of Birth Certificates that state the correct relationship between guardians and birth parents, and ease of access to no-fault, no-fee discharges for failed adoptions. These changes can help prevent unnecessary trauma and provide adoptees with the right to know their biological family and heritage.

AdopteeVoices is an important platform that sheds light on the hidden abuses, denial, and societal silence surrounding adoption. The focus on family preservation, biological heritage and culture, and adoption trauma is essential to understanding the adoptee’s lived experience. It is crucial to address the human rights violations that adoptees face and to hold those accountable for their role in perpetuating these injustices.

We need to work towards creating a world where adoption practices are based on transparency, fairness, and respect for human rights. It is time to prioritize family preservation and support birth families to prevent unnecessary separations and trauma. Adoption should not be a solution to social issues, but rather a last resort when all other options have been exhausted.

]]> By: Tim Eldridge https://cptsdfoundation.org/2022/02/23/the-double-standard-of-adoption-pro-life/#comment-18486 Wed, 12 Apr 2023 12:51:04 +0000 https://cptsdfoundation.org/?p=239685#comment-18486 Adoption is the ‘gift’ that goes on giving. As an adoptee recently diagnosed with CPTSD, I can relate to this article. Separating mothers and babies is deeply traumatic to both, and that trauma can last a lifetime. For the adopted child, it can ruin any possibility of a normal, happy life. I’m sure it’s difficult for people who aren’t adopted to understand, and easy to write off adoptees as ingrates, but it’s the truth.

]]> By: Abigail Marshall https://cptsdfoundation.org/2022/02/23/the-double-standard-of-adoption-pro-life/#comment-14959 Thu, 24 Feb 2022 03:26:26 +0000 https://cptsdfoundation.org/?p=239685#comment-14959 This is very brave. I can relate. I am also an adoptee.

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