Pro-life

A foetus has rights!

Adoption

A child in a contract they never signed!

What is being said here is that you as life, have rights, but only under the conditions that are dictated.

Adoptees can categorically state that living the life of adoption is extremely traumatic and far too much to handle even in adult years for reasons only they know all too intimately. Yes, there are some acceptions however adoption is rooted in trauma, literally. There is so much trauma that even if you were an adoptive parent, ignoring it DOES NOT make it disappear. Infant separation trauma happens, there is no denying that. It is a well-known fact that adoptees come with a lot of baggage… This “baggage” if not addressed can escalate and amplify over the course of an adoptee’s life, especially if their needs and issues are repeatedly ignored. Anxiety, Depression, PTDS, C-PTSD, Attachment issues, and more stem from the 7 core issues in adoption.

These are:

1. Loss
2. Rejection
3. Guilt and shame
4. Grief
5. Identity
6. Intimacy
7. Mastery/control

Let me spell this out, Adoptees have to deal with the loss of their biological mother their biological heritage, while coming to terms with being rejected by the mother after they spent 9 months in her womb listening to her heartbeat and her voice. So to say babies are a blank slate and don’t remember is a complete falsehood. From then on, any rejection is seen as a threat even the rejection from the adoptive family. So adoptees learn to comply at any cost, even falsely believing the narrative they should be grateful. This imposes guilt and shame on others while having to deal with their guilt and shame of not being good enough for their biological family. Grief ensues on a level no other human could possibly comprehend, it is multifaceted and multilayered which encompasses the loss of their first Identity to biology. The development of new their identity in their adoptive family is usually fragmented because they feel they cannot really be authentic in their identity for fear of rejection. This may cause attachment issues related to intimacy. Ultimately adoption corrupts the sense of self that there seems no safety at a core level which affects mastery and control an adoptee will have over and throughout their lives.

We do not do well with adaptability, flexibility, and neutrality in our life situations. Due to trauma, we lack the necessary skills needed to make adjustments in order to gain strength in coming to terms with our loss.

When words are being fed into adoptees’ mouths, when our feelings and boundaries are being ignored, we are further catapulted into our issues because we see that society can’t seem to acknowledge how traumatizing adoption really is. They would rather believe in the rainbow and unicorn sales pitch of the adoption industry to avoid facing the harsh truth that adoption is unquestionably flawed.

I’ve had hundreds even thousands of interactions with fellow adoptees where they say that they would have rather been aborted.

So, please realize that adoptees face issues, like most trauma sufferers.

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