This article describes my parents very well. Labeling is a good thing when mixed with integrity.

What is the alternative?

When your parents are complacent in presenting toxic behavior frequently. How else is one to stand up for themselves other than standing firm on your belief’s & boundaries. Nobody should be subjected to the repetitive abuse of a parent. The long term damage that it causes is difficult to overcome. Repetitive physical and emotional abuse is illegal by law. Negative people are like parasites. We’ve heard it all, “If misery loves company, so does joy.” “There’s something very wrong with your spirit if you get pleasure from humiliating, embarrassing and belittling other people.” “Don’t let miserable, bitter, or judgmental people bring your life down to the level of their unhappiness.” We accomplish this by going no contact.

Until you have experienced it, you can’t form an opinion. Yes, parents CAN be horribly toxic.

J

This article is so helpful! Thanks so much for making it. I’ve recently gone no contact with both my parents because of the trauma when I was a child psychological and physical abuse. I only recently worked out how bad it was. I always said I was lucky to have such a good childhood but found out that’s what was put in my head for years and it became a normal to say. My sister went no contact a few years ago then went minimal contact with my parents and I just took my parents side because ewe were raised on that parents are always right. I reached out to her a few weeks before to ask why she did and it was the exact same reasons I wanted to. Also found out we both have the same problems mentally because of out childhood. I seen the same things starting to show with my 12yo son. I felt so guilty at the start an kept putting it off until the horrid message my son got sent by my father. Going no contact made me instantly relieved and felt a weight lifted.

No Contact has become a trend encouraged by influencers and therapists in individual therapy. This is influencing young adults to go No Contact by labeling their parents as “Narcissists” and “toxic” and dehumanizing them with those labels

I have gone “no contact” but had a fall back of opening the door, where my mom the enabler did as if nothing happend and patronized me .she denies and participates in the abuse and It is always my mom who tries to pick the peace back by reinduce me again (it is never my dad who does the work or it is about own interest) – I had emotional parentification toward her.

Now after all i see that she abused me as well, emotional abuse but also with powerless feelings she did pinch me and very mean on purpose. She never stood-up for me, even when she tried it still was pointing out my ‘so called flaws’ through my dad, to make it easier for herself and not the abuse of my dad. .