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5 Lies Shame Wants You to Believe: #4 | I have to fix myself before I’m worthy of connection

Rachel Grant — Wed, 07 Oct 2026 10:00:00 +0000

Notice where you are waiting to be ready.

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5 Lies Shame Wants You to Believe: #3 | My feelings are too much (video)

Rachel Grant — Wed, 30 Sep 2026 10:00:00 +0000

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5 Lies Shame Wants You to Believe: #2 | If I were better, this wouldn’t have happened

Rachel Grant — Wed, 23 Sep 2026 10:00:00 +0000

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5 Lies Shame Wants You to Believe: #1 | You are the problem (Video)

Rachel Grant — Wed, 16 Sep 2026 10:00:00 +0000

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8 Things Survivors Need to Stop Apologizing For | Part 8 | Healing Slowly

Rachel Grant — Wed, 02 Sep 2026 10:00:00 +0000

Healing is layered. Slow healing is still healing.

What are you learning to be more patient with?

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8 Things Survivors Need to Stop Apologizing For | Part 7 | Prioritizing Your Peace

Rachel Grant — Mon, 31 Aug 2026 10:00:00 +0000

Protecting your peace is not selfish. It’s wisdom your nervous system earned the hard way.

What helps you protect your peace?

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8 Things Survivors Need to Stop Apologizing For | Part 6 | Taking Up Space

Rachel Grant — Thu, 27 Aug 2026 10:00:00 +0000

So many survivors learned how to become small. Healing often includes returning to visibility.

Where are you practicing taking up more space?

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8 Things Survivors Need to Stop Apologizing For | Part 5 | Needing Reassurance (video post)

Rachel Grant — Thu, 20 Aug 2026 10:00:00 +0000

Wanting reassurance doesn’t make you needy. Sometimes it means your nervous system is still learning safety.

What helps you feel emotionally safe?

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8 Things Survivors Need to Stop Apologizing For | Part 4 | Changing

Rachel Grant — Mon, 10 Aug 2026 10:00:00 +0000

Healing changes your tolerance, relationships, and what you’re willing to accept. Growth is not betrayal.

How have you changed through healing?

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The Part of Healing We Don’t Talk About Enough

Rachel Grant — Mon, 03 Aug 2026 10:00:00 +0000

There’s a moment many people on a healing path quietly come to – often after years of trying, pushing, and doing all the “right” things.

It’s the moment they realize:

“I thought I had moved on…so why does my body still feel this way?”

Why does anxiety still show up when life looks okay on the outside?

Why does connection still feel uncertain, even in safer relationships?

Why does the past still feel present?

For a long time, I thought healing meant getting to a place where the past no longer affected me. Where I could close the door on what happened and finally be “done.”

But what I’ve learned – both personally and through my work – is that trauma doesn’t resolve just because we understand it or because life improves on the surface.

Especially when trauma has been ongoing or relational, the nervous system adapts in deep ways. Even when the danger is gone, the patterns of protection can remain.

I know this place well.

There have been seasons where everything in my life looked “fine” on paper, but internally I was still carrying tension, hypervigilance, and a sense of bracing for something to go wrong. Not because I was broken, but because my system had learned that was the safest way to exist.

What I’ve come to understand is this:

Healing is about learning how to move with what has happened.

To stop fighting the parts of us that still carry impact.

To stop judging the responses that once protected us.

And to begin building enough internal safety that those patterns don’t have to run everything anymore.

Healing is not erasing your past.

It’s learning how to be in relationship with it differently.

And from that place, something new becomes possible!

A Small Action You Can Take Today

Take one quiet moment today and notice your body, not your thoughts.

Ask yourself gently:

Where am I bracing right now?

What might this part of me be trying to protect me from?

You don’t have to fix anything.

Just notice.

Then place a hand somewhere on your body – chest, belly, arm – and offer a simple reminder:

“I’m here with you.”

That alone is a form of healing. Not dramatic. Not forced. Just present.

To the journey,

Rachel

P.S. If you’re ready to take the next step in healing from abuse and would like to explore enrolling in the Beyond Surviving program, start by applying for a Discover Your Genuine Self Session.

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