Today CPTSD is recognized as needing long-term treatment because of the damages done to a person’s self-identity, deficits in self-regulation and their inability to see there is hope and healing available to them. Fear and hopelessness can be a daily reality for most survivors living with CPTSD symptoms. Therapists choosing to collaborate with patients living with CPTSD symptoms must take the time to receive the education they need to provide trauma-informed care. Additionally, they will need to understand that with the resolution of one issue—there will come others popping up seemingly out of nowhere. This is the nature of CPTSD.
The understanding of the day-to-day difficulty’s patients faces while living with complex post-traumatic stress disorder is a necessary part of trauma-informed care. Patience and unconditional warm regard are key if we are ever to help anyone have the hope they need to heal.
Trauma-informed care is an approach which sprang from the Substance Abuse and Mental Health Administration (SAMHSA), and its recognition of trauma is a significant role in the formation of women’s issues and gender-specific treatments in the 1990s. Over the next two decades, a lot was learned about diagnosing post-traumatic stress disorder and the diagnostic criteria and treatments for it.
The core ideas for trauma-informed care started to take shape and spread during the ACEs study mentioned in previous articles, as well as the launching of the Women, Co-Occurring Disorders and Violence Study in 1998 which was sponsored by SAMHSA. This study began the search for plans to help women who were victims of trauma and who also had co-occurring diagnoses of mental health disorders and substance abuse disorders.
The researchers recommended for “trauma-integrated services counseling” which has morphed into trauma-informed care today.
Trauma-Informed Care: The Basics
To save time and get to where we learn about the different forms of therapy used to treat CPSTD, I’m only briefly going to touch on the different goals of trauma-informed care. In future articles, we will discuss this subject in much more depth.
There are six basic aspects a trauma-informed therapist works towards; these include forming a therapeutic alliance, guiding you away from certain topics, helping you to understand where your behaviors and symptoms stem from, setting recovery as the goal for treatment, focusing on your strengths rather than your illness, and learning resiliency.
The first goal is covered extensively toward the bottom of this article, so we will discuss these aspects out of order.
Guiding You Away from Certain Topics. Your therapist will do their best to guide you away from topics charged with emotions. At first glance, this step may seem counterproductive. Isn’t tackling the issues which drove you to therapy the most crucial part of your recovery? However, a therapist trained in trauma-informed care understands you must first learn to cope with the inevitable pain which will come up while working on your past before you may safely face it.
Helping You Understand Where Your Behaviors and Symptoms Stem From. Trauma-informed therapists know unhealthy coping mechanisms, like shutting down in sessions and dissociation, are coping mechanisms which stem from your adverse childhood experiences. Trauma-informed therapists help you to understand these are indeed coping strategies you have used and may still use, to deal with your overwhelming emotional pain.
Trauma-informed practitioners will also make a significant statement to you, that at first, you may not accept: “What happened to you so long ago was never and shall never be your fault. You were a victim. However, now that you have achieved adulthood you and only you are responsible for your life today.” Adult survivors of adverse childhood experiences have an exceedingly tough time believing they are not to blame for their trauma and abuse.
Setting Recovery as a Goal for Treatment. Although co-occurring problems may exist, it is vital for your trauma-informed therapist to help you understand they will get better as you work through what happened in your past. The other symptoms or disorders, such as depression and anxiety, are not the overarching concerns, but rather effects from working on your recovery from complex post-traumatic stress disorder.
Focusing on Your Strengths Rather Than Your Illness. Many skills can be learned to cope with childhood trauma, and a trauma-informed therapist will collaborate with you to use them. Your therapist may ask your questions to help you think and keep focused on the future such as, “What are some of your accomplishments which make you feel proud?” By using positive language, your therapist will help you recognize you are capable of coping well even with tough experiences.
Learning Resiliency. Resiliency’s best described as the ability to overcome challenges of all types—including tragedy and personal crises—and bounce back stronger than before. Most of us who have survived childhood trauma is already very resilient. However, we often overreact or do not respond appropriately when faced with problems in our adult lives. Your trauma-informed therapist can help you understand some fundamental concepts such as how life is not fair, or how life is not easy. Once you have these lessons under your belt, events such as life changes, struggles, and death take on a new perspective, as they are just parts of life which all humans share.
The Importance of Establishing the Therapeutic Alliance
For we who were victimized in childhood and did not have a chance to establish a safe base with someone we trust, beginning to see a therapist feels very risky. The bond which forms between our therapists and us forms a connection where they can engage with us and help us to recognize our old behaviors and learn new ones.
This relationship is called the therapeutic alliance, and it isn’t one-sided or static. This relationship with your trauma-informed practitioner will be reciprocal—in fact, it is worth noting, a hallmark sign of all healthy relationships is reciprocity. This is not to say all relationships which have reciprocity are safe and healthy relationships, however, any relationship lacking reciprocity is worth looking at closely and determining whether or not it is safe or healthy.
It is also worth noting, therapists are humans too and can become emotionally attached to their clients. To help themselves, therapists must practice excellent self-care, such as setting healthy boundaries and taking ample time off from work for vacations. Therapists, like all humans, have flaws, but they can find ways to use those flaws to help us understand our recovery journey and to connect with us.
As the relationship between you and your therapist goes on, it will change and not remain static.
At first, you may feel uncomfortable and unable to share your feelings. However, after a bond forms and you begin to trust, you will relax into the relationship. You will then become open and honest about not just how you are feeling but you’ll also feel safer telling your therapist about any dangerous behaviors or thoughts you might be having.
This is when therapy and recovery can begin.
Establishing Safety
It is safe to say that a tremendous therapeutic bond is absolutely vital to anyone living with symptoms of complex post-traumatic stress disorder, especially if we are to ever face and accept the indescribable pain of what happened in childhood.
Once you feel comfortable with your therapist, it will be easier to begin the demanding work of facing what happened to you head-on, and ways you can heal.
Some of the safety issues which need to be tackled before the healing work begins are:
- Impulsive Behaviors
- Self-Destructive Thoughts and Behaviors
- Dangerous Relationships
- Addictions
- Suicidal Thoughts and Behaviors
It is clear, all the above safety concerns can be highly re-traumatizing, and suicidal ideation/behaviors can lead to death. To mitigate these threats to life, a trauma-informed therapist must seek to replace the need for these behaviors. This happens through agreeing on a safety plan. This is always done with you.
A safety plan may include you learning how to contact your therapist if you are having problems between sessions. However, your therapist may have rules about the ways you may contact them, such as at the office only or via email.
Your therapist may also ask you to sign an agreement with them stating you will not try to die by suicide. Instead, you promise you will reach out to someone you have listed on your safety plan or agreement.
Some therapists may ask you to attend Wellness Recovery Action Plan (WRAP) classes so you can make a detailed plan of what you will do in case you find yourself in trouble and having thoughts of self-harm or suicide.
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My name is Shirley Davis and I am a freelance writer with over 40-years- experience writing short stories and poetry. Living as I do among the corn and bean fields of Illinois (USA), working from home using the Internet has become the best way to communicate with the world. My interests are wide and varied. I love any kind of science and read several research papers per week to satisfy my curiosity. I have earned an Associate Degree in Psychology and enjoy writing books on the subjects that most interest me.
Dr. Davis, thank you for starting this website. I’ve read everything on it so far, and it’s enormously helpful. I’ve also sent the links to your articles to other friends I have who know what c-ptsd is. I’m looking forward to seeing more content as time goes on.
I’m so glad you are getting so much out of this site, however, I do not own it but only write for it. Athena Moberg is the owner/operator of the CPTSD Foundation’s website. She is a wonderful person who you can check out on YouTube as she speaks interactively there every week.
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I appreciate you reading my writing very much, thank you for your kind comment! Shirley J. Davis
I just found this site about 2 hours ago. I am excited about finding it. Right off the bat, I have two questions:
1. Where do I join for membership? Is there a fee?
2. Shirley, are you yourself a cPTSD survivor?
You go to our front page that you see when you bring up our site, scroll down to the great opportunities we offer in services, choose one and follow the prompts. There is a fee but if you cannot afford it, go to cptsdfoundation.org/scholarship and apply.
Yes, I am a CPTSD survivor who is moving on to become a thriver. Thank you for asking. Shirley
I was referred to your website today. Have experienced a 25 year aftermath of a high profile domestic violence case. Am in a somewhat safe place. Was told I could not heal until I felt safe. A lot is bubbling up to the surface I have tried to suppress previously. COVID has forced me to slow down and feel the horror of my past life. I need help.
You have come to the right place. All the writers and staff of CPTSD Foundation are healing from complex trauma, so we understand you. Please, feel free to take advantage of our resources and programs. You are certainly not alone in this. Shirley
Since I was 17 (now I am close to 22) I have “enjoyed” a variety of problems : general anxiety, depression then dysthymia, suicidal and obsessive irrational thoughts, troubles with intimacy and physical contact, deep loneliness. I had to wait 2018 to be diagnosed with general anxiety and dysthymia, and have always felt lost since everything started, never being able to put words on what the hell was happening to me. When thinking about my interest in WW1 “trench experience” (a historical theme that always “naturally attracted” me) and my recurrent “flash-backs” of past events, the description of C-PTSD felt so familiar that I am now almost sure this was what I searched for all those years : an explanation to why I feel so abnormal and disconnected from the World around me.
Though, I still minimize a lot, I often think that I don’t really exist, that I’m a ghost noone sees nor cares about, eventhough this can’t be true. Mainly because I can’t recall what “normal people” would consider traumatic events. I didn’t suffer from my life experiences. I suffered from not experiencing anything in life (it is an exageration but this is how it felt). I spent most of my teenage years (from 12 to 17) with no real friend, distrust from my teachers who didn’t get why I was always quiet, bad relations with parents (who told me I was making them feel ashamed of me numerous times), and close to no physical contact with anyone with some bullying on top of this. Now I have started to grow (finally), I have good friends, studies I like, some independance (my car changed my life almost as much as my friends) but I still struggle a lot with romantic relationships and can’t get rid of bad thoughts all the day long…
All this to ventilate a bit some pain (which makes me inevitably feel like I’m a narcissist) and to say that I’m very glad people like you are providing such a needed resource. Things linked to personal trauma (apart from war, catastrophies or sexual abuse which fortunately are getting more attention) or emotional abandonment are often not talked nor cared about, especially when you are a man. Basically the mere fact of having a problem makes me feel ashamed and guilty, and so thanks for providing help through these articles.
I’m so sorry you went through so much sir. I have been there too, although I am female. I’m glad you felt you could vent some pain here, that’s what we are all about. I urge you to take advantage of some of the programs offered here on this blog. Athena, the owner and the person who runs the programs, is a wonderful woman who understands like no one else does as she has been there too. Men have a horrendous time in our society and get a bad rap when it comes to finding help. I’m glad we can ease your discomfort even if it is only a little bit. Please, keep reading. I’m writing a series right now about men and CPTSD that will get published soon. Hang in there sir, we care very much about what happens to you. Shirley
Many thanks for your message! I would have guessed that you experienced that nightmare too, I would say one can “feel it” in the way you write, it’s great that you manage to maybe use all that bad energy to help others. I will keep looking at your programs/articles, as I actually only started going through this website. I don’t know whether it is recent, but I discovered C-PTSD at the start of the year and I don’t remember having seen this site on the search results back then. Which in a way shows how overlooked that trouble is. Therapists often only dig the first few inches, they tell you you have some “chemical imbalance problems” or that you’re “just” depressed, or anxious…
It’s also relieving to “hear” (well, to read haha) that society has a problem with men from a female. Antagonising men and women is maybe the worst thing that was ever done recently. I feel like some of the ideologies we nowadays have in “Western” societies, like what feminism have been turned into, consist in basically dehumanising men. And funny enough, it’s precisely exactly what “the demons in my head” do, dehumanising me, telling me I’m not worth anything, telling me I’m bad and I shouldn’t exist. Having that in the head, and sometimes fearing that even the society relays such thoughts, makes it indeed even harder to seek help and find Hope. Because Morale is key, even with the best people ever around, someone who has lost faith in life can’t be helped.
So, I’m looking forward for that article you talked about, and thanks again for caring about what I had to say.
One thought that I have Heinrich, is that unless someone has walked in your shoes they rarely grasp the essence of your pain.
I think it’s true indeed.