For many survivors of childhood s*xual abuse, the journey toward healing can be fraught with discomfort. The body often becomes a site of trauma, a vessel that holds memories and sensations tied to painful experiences. The complex relationship between the mind and body can make living in one’s skin feel like a challenge.
Yet, within this discomfort lies the potential for profound healing and self-discovery.
From the moment abuse occurs, the body begins to absorb the trauma. This can manifest in various ways—chronic pain, anxiety, dissociation, and a persistent sense of unease. Many people report feeling disconnected from their bodies, as if they exist in a state of constant tension, waiting for the next threat. The body becomes a reminder of the past, complicating the process of moving forward.
Recognizing this discomfort is the first step toward reclaiming one’s physical self. It is essential to acknowledge the feelings that arise when faced with one’s body, whether fear, shame, or even anger. Understanding that these feelings are valid and rooted in lived experience can be empowering.
While the journey often begins with confronting pain, it is also essential to seek out and cultivate moments of pleasure. Pleasure can be a powerful antidote to trauma, reminding survivors that their bodies are capable of joy, connection, and intimacy. This could involve simple practices, such as:
Mindful Movement: Engaging in activities like yoga, dance, or tai chi can foster a sense of agency and connection to the body. These practices encourage awareness and presence, allowing you to reclaim your physicality in a safe environment.
Sensory Exploration: Engaging the senses through activities like cooking, gardening, or art can create positive associations with the body. Focusing on textures, tastes, and colors can help you reconnect with their physical selves in an enjoyable way.
Therapeutic Touch: For some, exploring non-sexual touch—such as massage or cuddling with a pet—can help to re-establish a sense of safety and comfort in their bodies. This can facilitate healing by allowing you to experience affection without fear or trauma.
The most important thing is to approach healing with compassion and patience.
You may encounter setbacks or days when discomfort overwhelms you. Acknowledging these moments as part of the journey is crucial.
The good news is – we can reclaim our bodies and…
- Learn to treat ourselves with kindness
- Develop a deeper awareness of bodily sensations
- Learn to differentiate between discomfort that signals danger and discomfort that signifies growth
Living in the body as a survivor of childhood s*xual abuse is undeniably complex. However, by exploring both discomfort and pleasure, we can carve out a path toward healing and foster a more profound connection to our bodies, ultimately leading to a more fulfilling life.
To feeling comfortable in your own skin!
Rachel
P.S. If you’re ready to take the next step in healing from abuse and would like to explore enrolling in the Beyond Surviving program, start by applying for a Discover Your Genuine Self session.
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