Ready, Not Reckless: Death Anxiety Through a Trauma Lens
Most people aren’t afraid of death. They’re afraid of dying—pain, loss of control, humiliation, and the slow stripping away of what makes them recognizable to themselves. Death is the black box. Dying is paperwork, machines, schedules, and other people’s permission....
When a Single Sip Keeps You Awake
I have never been a drinker. Most people assume that means I didn’t like the taste or that I grew up in a strict household. The truth is simpler and more human. I was adopted at birth and raised as an only child by two functioning alcoholics. Nothing about that...
When the Body Keeps Score, but Blames the Mother
In the aftermath of childhood sexual abuse, a painful pattern often emerges: survivors direct blame toward nonoffending mothers. It sounds unfair because it often is. It also has a biological and developmental logic that does not care about fairness. Understanding...