Finding the courage and strength to be heard is a huge step in the journey of healing from trauma
As a trauma therapist, I am humbled and privileged to bear witness to my client’s stories in every session. In this space, I recognize the immense courage it takes for survivors to open up and share their experiences. I deeply respect the trust my clients place in me, knowing that they are revealing their most vulnerable and sensitive emotions.
Finding the courage and strength to be heard is a huge step in the journey of healing from trauma. One of my favorite definitions of trauma is by Dr. Peter Levine, “trauma is a loss of connection to ourselves, our bodies, to our families, to others, to the world around us.” Among the many disconnects caused by trauma, one significant aspect is our voice and truth.
As adults, we now have the power to reclaim our voices and share our stories
Growing up in an abusive and neglectful household can suppress one’s ability to understand and speak the truth. For so many of us, what is your truth? What do you need to feel seen, heard, and known? How does it feel to have someone listen?
As adults, we now have the power to reclaim our voices and share our stories. I want to acknowledge and celebrate the bravery it takes to speak up and offer some tips for supporting individuals to find their voice and tell their stories.
Self-Compassion and Understanding: Before speaking up, it is vital to cultivate self-compassion, patience, or whatever word lands well for you. Recognize that the lived experiences you endured were not your fault, and it is okay to feel hesitant to share your story. The journey toward healing is an active and humble process, and it is essential to be gentle with yourself as you navigate this path. Engage in activities that nurture your nervous and emotional well-being.
Safe Spaces and Supportive Allies: Finding safe spaces and supportive allies is crucial in empowering yourself to speak up. Trust is an essential component of sharing your story, and surrounding yourself with empathetic and understanding individuals can foster a sense of safety. Seek out support groups or like-minded communities focused on trauma survivors. Sharing your experiences with others who have gone through similar challenges can provide validation, encouragement, and a sense of belonging. We can also confide in close friends or family members whom we trust, knowing they will listen without judgment and support our journey of healing. Remember, healing is not linear, and it is okay to take your time to find your voice.
Gradual Exposure and Boundaries: Speaking up about past trauma can be overwhelming, so take it one step at a time. Gradual exposure allows you to build confidence and resilience as you find your voice. Start by expressing 1 or 2 words that come up for you in a private journal or through creative outlets like art, music, or poetry. As you become more comfortable, consider sharing parts of your story with a supportive individual before sharing it more publicly.
Establish clear boundaries for yourself during this process. You have the right to decide when, where, and with whom you share your experiences. Respect your limits and take breaks when needed. Speaking up can be emotionally draining, so remember to prioritize self-care and emotional regulation throughout this journey.
The path to finding your voice is a testament to your courage and strength as a survivor. Embrace self-compassion, seek supportive allies, and take it one step at a time with gradual exposure and clear boundaries. Your story matters, and by sharing it, you reclaim your power and inspire others to find their voices and heal.
I want to express my deepest gratitude for allowing me into your world, for entrusting me with your stories, and for embodying the strength that lies within vulnerability. As we continue this journey together, know that you are not alone—I am here, hand on heart, honoring the beauty, and resilience that defines you.
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I am Erena, a Licensed Clinical Social Worker, Certified Health Coach, and trauma advocate based in New York. I am the founder of a group practice that specializes in working with clients who have anxiety and complex trauma.
As a New York State approved Continuing Education Provider for Social Workers, I am committed to ongoing education and staying up-to-date with the latest research in my field. In addition to treating clients in my practice, I supervise dozens of clinicians and coaches from diverse backgrounds. I have been featured in Cosmopolitan, Marie Claire, Psychology Today, Reader’s Digest, Women’s Health, and MEL magazine. I am a proud member of the CPTSD Foundation Advisory Board.
