When Dysregulation is not what First Appears: Differentiating BPD, CPTSD with Attachment Dysregulation, Trauma-Bonded Anxious Attachment, Chronic Pain Identity, and Long-Term Instability
In clinical and forensic settings, I have observed evaluators confuse intensity with diagnosis. High emotional amplitude is persuasive. It pulls focus. It pressures the room. But intensity is not structure. Presentation is not etiology. If we fail to separate the...
I Do… A Wedding Story: How I started my wedding day alone - and gained a new family.
Say “I do…” Three little letters, two little words. It’s the simplest part of the day. But there’s nothing simple about the things that will remain unsaid. I do means I do know I could be hurt. But I’m ready to be healed with you. It means I do want to try. Even...
When A Voice Changes The Room: Trauma, Sound, and The Survival Skill No One Respects
Most people are taught to listen to words. Survivors listen to physics. They hear pitch, pace, volume, breath, the weight of a step in the hallway, the way a door closes, the length of a pause after their name. Those details are dismissed as “too sensitive” by people...
The Dance of Life
There she strolled, with a designed grace, one foot forward after the other, pushing, dispensing, oozing that life’s source, that vibrant something. Something spoken, wildly, emboldened to dare tell, to call out the imperative want and hunger that is human...