Are You a Positive Thinker? The Benefits of a Positive Mind
Hey, how are you doing today? Can you remember your first thoughts this morning? Was it a positive thought about your day ahead? Our world is full of negativity right now. It can be hard to tune everything out that’s going on in the news and in our cities. Did you...
“The Channel is Right but the Volume is Too High”: Understanding Emotional Triggers
In a scene from one of my favorite films, The Iron Giant, a boy named Hogarth plays in a junk yard with his new friend, a giant metal man fallen from space. In the midst of their game, Hogarth pulls out a toy gun and aims it at the giant. Instantly, and without his...
The Labyrinth of Healing: What Complex Trauma Taught Me About Becoming Whole (Part 1)
For a long time, I believed my healing would announce itself with a clear endpoint—a day when the pain would finally stop, when the hypervigilance would dissolve, when I would wake up and simply feel whole. I waited for that day for years. Decades, even. It never...
How Trauma Turns Us Into Controllers—and How We Finally Learn to Let Go
People don’t become controlling because they enjoy it. They become controlling because trauma taught them that unpredictability is dangerous. When life blindsides you enough times, your nervous system starts operating like a private security detail—monitoring,...