When Adults Talk Children Out of Themselves
Plenty of children never needed fixing, they needed adults who could tell guidance from control and knew when to protect a developing self rather than reshape it to satisfy adult fear, image, religion, family loyalty, gender rules, envy, convenience, or unexamined...
When the Body Keeps Score, but Blames the Mother
In the aftermath of childhood sexual abuse, a painful pattern often emerges: survivors direct blame toward nonoffending mothers. It sounds unfair because it often is. It also has a biological and developmental logic that does not care about fairness. Understanding...
Epigenetic Trauma: Predators, Abuse, and Ancestral Healing
Trigger Warning: This article contains stories of abuse; reader discretion is advised. “Be careful whom you trust; evil cloaks itself in many forms.” What is love if it doesn’t hurt, or like in my case, crash with a whimper? Perhaps your first crush was like...
Parenting with CPTSD: Send Snacks and Backup
Being a dad with CPTSD feels like starring in your own personal three-ring circus, except, of course, it’s not just a circus. It’s a high-stakes act with no safety net, and the crowd is loud and relentless. And when your daughter is soon to be 16? Well,...