When Adults Talk Children Out of Themselves
Plenty of children never needed fixing, they needed adults who could tell guidance from control and knew when to protect a developing self rather than reshape it to satisfy adult fear, image, religion, family loyalty, gender rules, envy, convenience, or unexamined...
When the Body Keeps Score, but Blames the Mother
In the aftermath of childhood sexual abuse, a painful pattern often emerges: survivors direct blame toward nonoffending mothers. It sounds unfair because it often is. It also has a biological and developmental logic that does not care about fairness. Understanding...
What Your Family Didn’t Say Still Got Passed Down
There is a stubborn belief, especially in pull-yourself-up cultures, that if something did not happen directly to you, it should not affect you. People want to assume trauma stops with the person who first lived it. That is not how trauma works. Not biologically. Not...