What Your Family Didn’t Say Still Got Passed Down
There is a stubborn belief, especially in pull-yourself-up cultures, that if something did not happen directly to you, it should not affect you. People want to assume trauma stops with the person who first lived it. That is not how trauma works. Not biologically. Not...
Returning to Work after A Mental Health Break: Tips and Strategies
Taking a mental health break is a courageous step towards self-care and personal well-being. As you prepare to return to work, it’s natural to feel a mix of emotions — excitement, nervousness, and perhaps a touch of anxiety. Remember, you’re not alone in this journey....
Are You Living in Fear? (Stuff We Don’t Talk About)
This post is darker than my normal posts, but I feel it’s time to address it. Fear. How are you doing today? I mean, really. Are you having a good day, or a not-so-great day? I’m deliberately not saying the word “bad.” Bad is a word that is used way too often and...
Drowning in Drama: When Calm Feels Like a Threat Instead of a Relief
Drowning in Drama: When Calm Feels Like a Threat Instead of a Relief The most misunderstood trait in trauma survivors isn’t volatility, mistrust, or emotional escalation. It’s the fact that many of them can’t tolerate peace. Not because they’re wired for chaos by...
CPTSD and Physical Illness
Going about daily life living with CPTSD is a herculean feat in and of itself Both external and internal triggers can spark memories, emotional volatility, and mistrust. Feeling secure and grounded in the present moment can feel fleeting. Chronic illness, even a cold...
When Body, Mind, and Emotions Hold Too Tight
The Weight of Tension: bare with, this is quiet an extensive blog written to answer a couple of questions by some of my readers I have also added a video link to help you get a feel for this Nervous System Informed Approach to healing. Before You Begin: As you read...
Understanding Your Professional Window of Tolerance: Signs You’re Moving Out of Your Optimal Zone at Work
As trauma survivors, many of us have become experts at pushing through discomfort at work. We’ve learned to override our body’s signals, power through overwhelming situations, and keep going no matter what. While this ability to persevere has helped us survive, it can...
The Fire Within: Fighting for Freedom
When I started therapy with the dozenth therapist of my life, my world was on fire. The flames of chaos once again swallowed my life. I attended the first few sessions of therapy, desperate to put out the firestorm before it consumed me. Fortunately, my therapist is...