Are You Living in Fear? (Stuff We Don’t Talk About)
This post is darker than my normal posts, but I feel it’s time to address it. Fear. How are you doing today? I mean, really. Are you having a good day, or a not-so-great day? I’m deliberately not saying the word “bad.” Bad is a word that is used way too often and...
Drowning in Drama: When Calm Feels Like a Threat Instead of a Relief
Drowning in Drama: When Calm Feels Like a Threat Instead of a Relief The most misunderstood trait in trauma survivors isn’t volatility, mistrust, or emotional escalation. It’s the fact that many of them can’t tolerate peace. Not because they’re wired for chaos by...
CPTSD and Physical Illness
Going about daily life living with CPTSD is a herculean feat in and of itself Both external and internal triggers can spark memories, emotional volatility, and mistrust. Feeling secure and grounded in the present moment can feel fleeting. Chronic illness, even a cold...
When Body, Mind, and Emotions Hold Too Tight
The Weight of Tension: bare with, this is quiet an extensive blog written to answer a couple of questions by some of my readers I have also added a video link to help you get a feel for this Nervous System Informed Approach to healing. Before You Begin: As you read...
Understanding Your Professional Window of Tolerance: Signs You’re Moving Out of Your Optimal Zone at Work
As trauma survivors, many of us have become experts at pushing through discomfort at work. We’ve learned to override our body’s signals, power through overwhelming situations, and keep going no matter what. While this ability to persevere has helped us survive, it can...
The Fire Within: Fighting for Freedom
When I started therapy with the dozenth therapist of my life, my world was on fire. The flames of chaos once again swallowed my life. I attended the first few sessions of therapy, desperate to put out the firestorm before it consumed me. Fortunately, my therapist is...
When Anxiety Ran My Life… Here’s How I Reclaimed Control
Post-divorce back in 2006, starting over felt like stepping into a storm without an umbrella. Life had taken an unexpected turn, and I was scared – terrified, really – that I wouldn’t be able to support myself. Living on my own again was harder than I...
Don’t Be A Doormat: How Saying Yes Too Much is Silently Breaking You
We’ve all done it, saying yes when we don’t want to. So, why do we do it to ourselves? Why don’t we just say what we feel? The truth isn’t as cut and dry as you would think. Excuses — right? That is what you’d say. I get that. My own excuses have excuses as to why I...