Whose Grave Was It Anyways?
My father died on June 6, 1998. My mother died on June 8, 2025, at the age of 89, 27 years after her husband almost to the day. On the day my father passed away, my mother, Gretchen, began digging a grave. Not literally, but metaphorically. For 27 years, she tried to...
8 Ways to Emotionally Support Yourself When No One Else Does
What can you do when no one is giving you closure, safety, or nurturing? Here are 8 needs trauma survivors have and what you can do to meet them yourself. Becoming Your Own First Responder Quinn sat on the edge of their twin bed, staring at their phone screen through...
“I Feel Like I Don’t Matter” Where Does This Belief Come From? (Internalized Worthlessness)
For many, this profoundly sad notion is buried so deeply, we don’t even realize it’s driving our search for significance. Why do we believe this and how can we heal it? Internalized Worthlessness: When You Truly Believe You Don’t Matter Khalil stood...
When Being “Good” Hurts: The Doormat Syndrome
Setting Boundaries and Protecting Your Peace of Mind: Yes, because of my CPTSD, I was a people-pleaser. This was like a survival-mode I learned as a child. And that doormat syndrome was often painful for me, for many years. Until one day, I had had enough and decided...