Codependency and Narcissistic Abuse
Many of us have heard of codependency and narcissism. Codependency is when two people are locked in a life where they feed off on another, causing mental anguish. Narcissism is when one of the pair is self-centered, arrogant, and lacks empathy for their partner. In...
PTSD: Your Condition is Not Your Conclusion
The power of meta-cognition You have no clue when or how but, somehow you have slid into this odd air bubble filled with millions and millions of thoughts still, a deafening silence is what you hear when focusing on these thoughts. Dozens of familiar and uncontrolled...
Valuable Moments in Time
We can know we are safe and still not feel safe? We come into the world wired for connection and safety. How do we shift from the appearance of safety to the experience of this at a neurological and physiological level? While we may think our brains are in charge, our...
Building a Better Future for Yourself Today
In this series, we have discussed how to make better memories to lessen the impact of those that are trauma-based and very unpleasant. The holidays are the perfect time to build new memories by beginning new traditions. This article will focus on ways you can build a...
Changing Cognitive Distortions to Make Good Memories
Survivors of complex trauma often see the world as a horrendous place where there is only pain and sorrow. It is very difficult for people like us to step back and see the trees for the forest. During this season of the year, the thinking patterns of survivors can...This Missing Love Language Is the One Trauma Survivors Need Most — Safety
So many relationship experts have embraced the idea of love languages. They became popular with Gary Chapman’s 1992 book, The 5 Love Languages, for the ways partners show love and care: acts of service, physical touch, words, gifts, quality time. Yet none of these can...
How to Ebrace Hope, After the Holidays
It’s no earth-shattering revelation that the holidays are a tough time for so many. For survivors, in particular, all of our emotions are compounded amidst the joyous season that’s supposed to be filled with love, friendship, and hope. Instead of looking forward to...The Trauma May have Started at Childhood, But it Doesn’t End There
Almost a year ago, I was invited to guest write in this forum, after releasing my book. For almost a year I have had this page bookmarked. I’ve seen it every day, but the intense fear of ridicule, judgment, and frankly feeling of irrelevance has stopped me from...