Lost Child Syndrome.
The term dysfunctional family is used to give a name to a family that does not function within normal parameters. There may be alcoholism, drug abuse, neglect, and abuse. These disturbed families harbor children who, because of their debilitated families, are not...
Are You Good Enough to Deserve Love?
As children, many survivors faced not receiving love from their caregivers without paying a tremendous price, and even then, it wasn’t true love. This lack of attention and care left most abused and mistreated children living in a limbo of desiring the love they...Over-stimulation and Complex Trauma.
I have to admit, I’ve been having a rough time in one regard lately. Which is hard to believe considering all the ways this Complex Trauma journey complicates my mental and external worlds. I’m not feeling emotionally-off balance or down and out… but I am feeling...
Are You Feeling “Good Enough”?
If you were raised in a trauma filled home, you may have grown up not knowing how you fit into the world. Some days you may feel that you do not belong on planet earth and that you were a mistake. This series is dedicated to the fact that you do belong and are...Seeking … and Finding the Gift.
Reading Randi’s post, How to Stop the Cycle of Abuse (September 18, 2020), I was deeply moved by the level of insight and heart. Had those who raised me understood even one of her important points, my childhood would have greatly improved. Given the poignancy of...
Rethinking Trauma Anniversaries
Chilled and humid, the air sticks to my skin. The sky is thickly overcast, a shock after three warm days of sunshine. Is this the perfect background for my somber mood or the conditions that provoke it? October starts a long anniversary I don’t want to recall, much...
How to Improve Your Emotional Wellness.
In October, we have been exploring together emotional wellness and emotional intelligence during emotional wellness awareness month. During these stressful days of the COVID 19 pandemic, talking about this subject is even more vital than ever before. Being emotionally...Paper Dolls and Color Wheels: A DID Drawing
The Beginning I know now that D.I.D. systems arise to keep certain experiences and feelings separate from normal consciousness. The alters or aspects of my mind that hold my trauma are unique to my childhood abuse experiences. Each of us with a dissociative disorder...