When the Client’s Body Reacts, but the Story Isn’t True

When the Client’s Body Reacts, but the Story Isn’t True

Tears, tremors, and vivid descriptions can be compelling. They are not proof. In complex trauma, memory is less a film reel and more a patchwork of emotional flashbulbs, fragments, and protective edits. Somatic reactions tell us that something mattered to the nervous...
The Ancestral Fear Lurking Beneath Your Bed

The Ancestral Fear Lurking Beneath Your Bed

Most people treat sleep habits as personal quirks. One in particular divides the room: letting your feet hang over the edge of the bed. Some find it soothing. Others feel a surge of anxiety at the thought. This is not only folklore or horror-movie residue. The...
What Your Family Didn’t Say Still Got Passed Down

What Your Family Didn’t Say Still Got Passed Down

There is a stubborn belief, especially in pull-yourself-up cultures, that if something did not happen directly to you, it should not affect you. People want to assume trauma stops with the person who first lived it. That is not how trauma works. Not biologically. Not...
Fawn Response: The Trauma Survival Pattern That’s Mistaken for Kindness

Fawn Response: The Trauma Survival Pattern That’s Mistaken for Kindness

It often looks like compassion. It often gets praised as loyalty. But for many trauma survivors, the behavior known as the fawn response isn’t about kindness—it is about survival. The fawn response is the least recognized of the four primary trauma reactions: fight,...