by Sunny Lynn, OMC | Jul 6, 2022 | Anger, Anxiety, Attachment Trauma, Complex PTSD Healing, CPTSD and Inner Child Work, CPTSD and Narcissistic Abuse, CPTSD Survivor Stories, Guest Contributor, Mindfulness, Narcissistic Personality Disorder, Self Care
Scapegoated! (as published in The Friday Edition of HeartBalm Healing at https://heartbalm.substack.com) For the adult who blames themselves – who see things go wrong around them and perceives the familiar feelings of self-blame, guilt, shame, and “it’s my fault”...
by Rebekah Brown | Jun 30, 2022 | Attachment Trauma, Boundaries, Complex PTSD Healing, CPTSD, Emotional Wellness, Family Estrangement, Guest Contributor, Relationships, Trauma
How A Trauma Bond is Formed Scaly grey snake heads with the dead black eyes of a reptile weaved back and forth. Bright red tongues darted to and fro. They covered the Uhaul. I couldn’t look away. Out on my daily walk with Tiny, the chihuahua, I pulled my wheelchair...
by Rebekah Brown | Jun 23, 2022 | Attachment Trauma, CPTSD, Relationships, Trauma
Trauma changes the bonding mechanism of relationships. It changes how we are wired and it changes our ability to attach to other people. When the primary source of relationships is rooted in abuse, a core wound is created. In my case, both parents were perpetrators of...
by Sylvie Rouhani | May 20, 2022 | Abandonment and CPTSD, ACEs, Addiction, Attachment Trauma, Codependency, Emotional Flashbacks, Guest Contributor, Healing Codependency, Relationships, Self-Acceptance
When a new relationship starts (actually, it doesn’t even need to start), we are overwhelmed with emotional flashbacks from younger “Inner Parts” desperate to be loved, protected, and supported. and other parts of us will do anything to appease these...
by Sylvie Rouhani | May 17, 2022 | ACEs, Attachment Trauma, Childhood Sexual Abuse, Complex PTSD Healing, CPTSD, CPTSD Survivor Stories, Guest Contributor, Trauma-Informed
*** Trigger Warning*** please take care of yourself while reading this post: graphic details of Child Sexual Abuse ________________________________________________________________________________________________________ When we were children, adults often told us to...
by Rebekah Brown | Apr 20, 2022 | Abandonment and CPTSD, ACEs, Attachment Trauma, Complex PTSD Healing, CPTSD and Narcissistic Abuse, Depression, Guest Contributor, Trauma
My mother died this morning. I knew the time was near but didn’t quite believe it would actually happen. She had lived for so long and did so much damage—I had grown accustomed to her shadow. I thought she would live forever. Institutionalized for over twenty-five...