Why “I Can’t Talk About It”, is Rich Information
When a person dealing with trauma says to their therapist, “I can’t talk about it,” this is not a dead end. It’s not blocking therapy. Far from it. It is the beginning of the work; it shows exactly where it needs to start. “I can’t talk about it” is not resistance. It...
Feelings Aren’t Insects
Just when I thought I couldn’t feel any worse, my mom’s accusatory words cut into my soul like shrapnel. Her words embedded themselves in my heart and mind: “You don’t know how to be happy.” Sometimes she delivered the extended version, her lip curled in...
Ruins as Echoes
Why I went looking for broken places, and what they gave back For most of my twenties and thirties, I lived a contradiction I tried to hide from everyone. On the outside, I seemed to have my life together–running a photography studio, exhibiting my work, and...
Trauma and Its Effect on the Brain
Have you ever been curious about why, and how trauma survivors react to events, and other situations differently from others? As a trauma survivor, I started questioning why I am the way I am in certain situations. I have noticed all my life that most people...
How can love feel like home?
I recently had the great joy of connecting with Robyn Vogel. She is the author of the book Come Back to Love: A Path to Healing and host of the syndicated radio show of the same name! She has spent more than two decades helping individuals and couples heal emotional...
“I Don’t Want to Be Alive Anymore” – Understanding the Loss of Will to Live After Abuse
Whether the narcissist is one person or a group, the pain of mistreatment can make you want to go to sleep and never wake up. Let’s validate this dilemma, consider why it happens, and how to heal. The Weight You Carry You wake up each morning with a heaviness...
Understanding Trauma is not About the Past… It’s about YOU in the Present
“You cannot heal from trauma by understanding things intellectually.” Gabor Mate, Ennea Summit 2026. I’ve been lucky to come across a free 90-minute Webinar with Dr. Gabor Mate, and have been consuming it for the past three days. Dr. Gabor Mate has launched a...
The Rock and the Hard Place
I only found the “language” surrounding CPTSD very late in my life. Learning the reason for my decades of dysfunction and brokenness was my fiftieth birthday present from the universe–a genuine revelation. And long overdue. Like so many people who...
“I Feel Like I Don’t Matter” Where Does This Belief Come From? (Internalized Worthlessness)
For many, this profoundly sad notion is buried so deeply, we don’t even realize it’s driving our search for significance. Why do we believe this and how can we heal it? Internalized Worthlessness: When You Truly Believe You Don’t Matter Khalil stood...Follow, Like, & Share!
