What Your Family Didn’t Say Still Got Passed Down

What Your Family Didn’t Say Still Got Passed Down

There is a stubborn belief, especially in pull-yourself-up cultures, that if something did not happen directly to you, it should not affect you. People want to assume trauma stops with the person who first lived it. That is not how trauma works. Not biologically. Not...

The Ongoing Journey of Healing from Child Abuse

TRIGGER WARNING: Topics in this article include childhood sexual abuse and may be sensitive to readers.  At the beginning of  July, I received a package: copies of my book and promotional material.  I danced around my flat, my heart racing with excitement and...
How to Choose the Right Kind of Friends

How to Choose the Right Kind of Friends

Survivors have been damaged by relationships and relationships are the pathway toward healing. What a terrible statement. The thing that did us so much harm is the thing we must have in order to get well. This is the dilemma for a survivor of trauma. In addition,...