What if I am Damaged for Good?
What if I will never heal from trauma? What if my nervous system is so damaged from childhood trauma that no amount of therapy and practice will reteach it a sense of safety in places and situations that trigger me? Is it possible for a nervous system to be so...
8 Ways to Emotionally Support Yourself When No One Else Does
What can you do when no one is giving you closure, safety, or nurturing? Here are 8 needs trauma survivors have and what you can do to meet them yourself. Becoming Your Own First Responder Quinn sat on the edge of their twin bed, staring at their phone screen through...
Blind Cruelty
How do we perceive, interpret, or process the reality of human behavior that goes on around us? The best answer is: “very carefully.” When another’s presence approaches our self-imposed safety bubble or personal space, we have choices about how to interpret the...
Amplifying Hope
Surviving the invisible epidemic of emotional and psychological abuse On November 19th 2023, I answered a call from an unknown female who, in 30 minutes, would blindside and obliterate the family my children and I knew. On that call, she divulged an abundance of...
Trauma Can Make You Feel Broken: Understanding CPTSD and Why You Feel This Way.
Within me, a quiet question lingered for years: Why am I feeling so broken?” I experienced periods where I lacked self-understanding of what was going on with me. I found myself puzzled by my feelings of unease when I was with certain people or in specific...
Developmental Trauma Series: 3 – Why Insight Alone Does Not Heal Developmental Trauma
There I was standing in the hallway of the emergency room after my mother’s latest suicide attempt. This time, she had taken a knife up and down her arms, and for good measure, jumped into my father’s rural fishing pond behind the house. The neighbors found her. Now,...
Continued: Trauma and its Effect on the Brain: Beyond Fight, Flight and Freeze States…
My name’s Lizzy, and I’m a trauma survivor. I write to spread awareness of what it feels like to live after traumatic events and abuse. I know because I’m living this life. A life after enduring more than a human being should be able to survive. The five F’s of Trauma...
Looking Back: Mother’s Day Hurts
This post looks back at the recent US Holiday, “Mothers Day”, and the challenges it creates for survivors of trauma with a mother wound. How are you feeling today? Do you have a complex relationship with today being Mother’s Day? I know I do, and I thought...
When Over-Explaining Is a Trauma Response
Some people cannot answer a simple question with a simple answer. They deliver the fact, then the context, then the reason, then the exception, and, finally, the disclaimer meant to head off any possible misinterpretation or misunderstanding. They hear the extra...Follow, Like, & Share!
