How to Keep a Friend – Managing Conflict
Conflict panics me. Okay? There…I said it. I am the first to run for cover at the smell of conflict. Why? Because childhood trauma taught me to confuse the two. To me, having a conflict with someone means trauma. And so…avoiding conflict becomes the goal...
How to Choose the Right Kind of Friends
Survivors have been damaged by relationships and relationships are the pathway toward healing. What a terrible statement. The thing that did us so much harm is the thing we must have in order to get well. This is the dilemma for a survivor of trauma. In addition,...Am I a Victim or a Survivor?
Recovery groups, as well as any religious and spiritual groups, like to overuse the words “Victim” and “Survivor” and, it seems, that victims are childish, negative, and difficult adults and, survivors, are heroes, positive and inspirational....